Thanksgiving Day Reads

Thanksgiving Day Parade, by Garin Baker

Thanksgiving Day Parade, by Garin Baker

Good Afternoon!!

I decided to stay home today instead of getting together with family and friends. I’m still too traumatized to deal with polite society. Again this morning, I find myself on the verge of tears–and I’ve felt that way since I woke up.

I’m thankful that I still have a roof over my head, food to eat, clothes to wear thanks to Express, and health care if I need it–for now. I’m thankful for my family and that my mom is still with us. I’m thankful for this blog and for the ability to connect with other like-minded people on the internet–for now. Everything is short-term now, because I have no idea what is coming.

All I know for sure is that a minority of U.S. voters have elected a simple-minded authoritarian to lead this country, and that his inner circle is filled with racists and white supremacists. He has named a number of startlingly unqualified people as candidates for his cabinet.

Macy's Thanksgiving Day parade, 1930

Macy’s Thanksgiving Day parade, 1930

Last night the Washington Post revealed that the president-elect has refused to participate in daily intelligence briefings. Apparently he is quite satisfied with his overwhelming ignorance of foreign affairs and national security risks.

President-elect Donald Trump has received two classified intelligence briefings since his surprise election victory earlier this month, a frequency that is notably lower — at least so far — than that of his predecessors, current and former U.S. officials said.

A team of intelligence analysts has been prepared to deliver daily briefings on global developments and security threats to Trump in the two weeks since he won. Vice President-elect Mike Pence, by contrast, has set aside time for intelligence briefings almost every day since the election, officials said.

The Trump team claims their great god-emperor has been too busy selecting incompetent people for his White House staff and Cabinet.

But others have interpreted Trump’s limited engagement with his briefing team as an additional sign of indifference from a president-elect who has no meaningful experience on national security issues and was dismissive of U.S. intelligence agencies’ capabilities and findings during the campaign.

A senior U.S. official who receives the same briefing delivered to President Obama each day said that devoting time to such sessions would help Trump get up to speed on world events.

“Trump has a lot of catching up to do,” the official said.

But the president-elect knows more than the generals do so no big deal according to his staff and many Republicans. Still, let us not forget that ignoring intelligence briefings very likely gave us the 9/11 attacks.


Meanwhile, Hillary Clinton’s popular vote lead continues to balloon (Thanksgiving Day parade pun intended). Politico: Clinton’s lead in the popular vote surpasses 2 million.

A series of long-shot bids to reconsider the result of the 2016 election cropped up on Wednesday as Democrats and liberals dismayed by Donald Trump’s victory saw Hillary Clinton’s lead in the popular vote surpass 2 million on Wednesday.

Clinton’s camp and leading Democrats have been entirely silent on the efforts — including a potential request for a recount of Pennsylvania, Michigan and Wisconsin sponsored by Green Party candidate Jill Stein — further underscoring the unlikelihood of movement on that front. But left-leaning activists were nonetheless temporarily cheered after New York Magazine reported on Tuesday evening that Clinton’s campaign chairman John Podesta and campaign attorney Marc Elias spoke with a group of election lawyers and computer scientists about the possibility that results may have been altered in those states.

The former secretary of state has garnered 64,223,958 votes, compared to the president-elect’s 62,206,395, according to a count curated by Dave Wasserman of the nonpartisan Cook Political Report.

Among the potential steps to challenge the results on Wednesday was an announcement from Stein, often a strident Clinton critic, that she would seek to challenge the results in all three of the states if she raised the $2 million necessary to do so. Pennsylvania and Wisconsin are traditionally Democrats states that fell into Trump’s column on Nov. 8, and Michigan’s story is similar, though it has yet to be officially called for Trump. As of Thursday mornng, Stein’s campaign had raised at least $2.5 million, according to multiple news reports.

Frankly, I’m not getting my hopes up, but anything that potentially embarrasses the president-elect is just fine with me. Let’s have a recount and a forensic analysis of Wisconsin, Pennsylvania, North Carolina, and Florida. Maybe Clinton will still win Michigan, but lets have a recount there too. Let the president-elect have all the Twitter tantrums he wants and let’s mock him unmercifully.


The Atlantic: Hillary Clinton’s Lead Is Greater Than Multiple Former Presidents.’

Clinton’s and Trump’s totals will continue to grow as authorities work through the ballots, the bulk of which are coming from blue states and thus won’t change the election. The counting process will wrap up by the time the Electoral College votes on December 19, said David Wasserman, an editor at The Cook Political Report, which is tracking the count. Wasserman has predicted that when all the votes are tallied, Clinton could be ahead of Trump by approximately 2 percentage points. It could be a little over or a little under, but “I’m confident it’ll ultimately round to 2,” he told me.

But even Clinton’s current lead is noteworthy—or personally painful, depending on one’s political leanings. That’s because multiple candidates in American history have been elected president with far smaller margins than hers in the popular vote. According to figures from the Atlas of U.S. Presidential Elections—and as alluded to by one Atlantic reader—they include:

James Garfield in 1880: 0.09 percentage points

John F. Kennedy in 1960: 0.17 percentage points

Grover Cleveland in 1884: 0.57 percentage points

Richard Nixon in 1968: 0.7 percentage points

James Polk in 1844: 1.45 percentage points

If the final vote count does, indeed, put her roughly 2 percentage points ahead of Trump, her margin would edge up against those of winning presidential nominees Jimmy Carter in 1976 (2.07 percentage points) and George W. Bush in 2004 (2.47 percentage points). And all this is not to mention the presidents who’ve been elected without winning the popular vote at all. That’s a list that includes Bush in 2000, and will soon include Trump. As my colleague Ronald Brownstein put it, Trump “is on track to lose the popular vote by more than any successfully elected president ever.”

Three Important Reads for Today (IMHO)


Barbara Kinsolver at The Guardian: Trump changed everything. Now everything counts.

If you’re among the majority of American voters who just voted against the party soon to control all three branches of our government, you’ve probably had a run of bad days. You felt this loss like a death in the family and coped with it as such: grieved with friends, comforted scared kids, got out the bottle of whisky, binge-watched Netflix. But we can’t hole up for four years waiting for something that’s gone. We just woke up in another country.

It’s hard to guess much from Trump’s campaign promises but we know the goals of the legislators now taking charge, plus Trump’s VP and those he’s tapping to head our government agencies. Losses are coming at us in these areas: freedom of speech and the press; women’s reproductive rights; affordable healthcare; security for immigrants and Muslims; racial and LGBTQ civil rights; environmental protection; scientific research and education; international cooperation on limiting climate change; international cooperation on anything; any restraints on who may possess firearms; restraint on the upper-class wealth accumulation that’s gutting our middle class; limits on corporate influence over our laws. That’s the opening volley.

Wariness of extremism doesn’t seem to trouble anyone young enough to claim Lady Gaga as a folk hero. I’m mostly addressing my generation, the baby boomers. We may have cut our teeth on disrespect for the Man, but now we’ve counted on majority rule for so long we think it’s the air we breathe. In human decency we trust, so our duty is to go quietly when our team loses. It feels wrong to speak ill of the president. We’re not like the bigoted, vulgar bad sports who slandered Obama and spread birther conspiracies, oh, wait. Now we’re to honor a president who made a career of debasing the presidency?

We’re in new historical territory. A majority of American voters just cast our vote for a candidate who won’t take office. A supreme court seat meant to be filled by our elected president was denied us. Congressional districts are now gerrymandered so most of us are represented by the party we voted against. The FBI and Russia meddled with our election. Our president-elect has no tolerance for disagreement, and a stunningly effective propaganda apparatus. Now we get to send this outfit every dime of our taxes and watch it cement its power. It’s not going to slink away peacefully in the next election.

Please go read the whole thing.


Rebecca Traister: Blaming Clinton’s Base for Her Loss Is the Ultimate Insult.

To say that the past two weeks — past two months, and perhaps two years — have been punishing for America’s women and people of color is surely an understatement.

During the presidential campaign, many Americans, notably those most likely to have voted for Hillary Clinton, were on the receiving end of torrents of vitriol coming from Donald Trump and his supporters: They were caricatured as rapists and criminals, bimbos, dogs, and pigs, and subjected to the humiliation of watching a man repeatedly accused of sexual assault run for president, advised by a cadre of racists adorably referred to as members of the “alt-right,” all while our first black president and first woman nominee were regularly called crooks and threatened with imprisonment and execution.

That man won the presidency, beating the candidate whom the vast majority of black voters, Latino voters, Asian-American voters, and women (if not white women, who voted for Trump by 53 percent) supported.

Those voters watched as Trump promptly appointed white nationalist Steve Bannon as a senior White House adviser and proposed Jefferson Beauregard Sessions III, a man once deemed too racist to serve as a judge, to succeed Loretta Lynch as attorney general. They have shuddered as, across America, hateful expressions of white-nationalist victory have proliferated: “You can kiss your visa good-bye, scumbag; they’ll deport you soon, don’t worry, you fucking terrorist,” screamed one man in Queens at a Muslim Uber driver. A dugout wall in upstate New York was decorated with swastikas alongside the words “Make America White Again.” In Ann Arbor, a man threatened to set a Muslim student on fire with his lighter unless she removed her hijab. At Canisius College in New York, students posted photos of a black doll hung from a curtain rod. The nation’s white supremacists have been rolling in their own affirmations of power, while those proven again to have less of it stand witness.

And now, the women and people of color who made up Clinton’s base and were the most enthusiastic supporters of her campaign, the ones who have the most to lose under the Trump administration, have found themselves on the receiving end of the lion’s share of the blame for our recent national cataclysm.

Read the rest at The Cut.


A speech by Christiane Amanpour at the International Press Freedom Awards.

I never in a million years thought I would be up here on stage appealing for the freedom and safety of American journalists at home.

Ladies and gentlemen, I added the bits from candidate Trump as a reminder of the peril we face.

I actually hoped that once president-elect, all that that would change, and I still do.

But I was chilled when the first tweet after the election was about “professional protesters incited by the media.”

He walked back the part about the protesters but not the part about the media.

We are not there but postcard from the world: this is how it goes with authoritarians like Sisi, Erdoğan, Putin, the Ayatollahs, Duterte, et al.

As all the international journalists we honor in this room tonight and every year know only too well:

First the media is accused of inciting, then sympathizing, then associating–until they suddenly find themselves accused of being full-fledged terrorists and subversives.

Then they end up in handcuffs, in cages, in kangaroo courts, in prison–and then who knows?

Just to say, Erdoğan has just told my Israeli colleague Ilana Dayan that he cannot understand why anyone’s protesting in America, it must mean they don’t accept–or understand–democracy! And he thinks America, like all great countries, needs a strongman to get things done!

A great America requires a great and free and safe press.

Read more at Columbia Journalism Review.

I wish each and every one of you a Happy Thanksgiving. Live for today and plan to fight back when necessary. #Resist!


44 Comments on “Thanksgiving Day Reads”

  1. Delphyne49 says:

    Happy Thanksgiving, BB and all SkyDancers…it’s not the Thanksgiving we wanted to celebrate, but we’re still here for each other and I am very thankful for that.

    BB – I hope you’re able to get some deep rest today…take care of you! xo

  2. Ron4Hills says:

    Happy thanksgiving!

  3. NW Luna says:

    I’m thankful for this blog community and wish a pleasant Thanksgiving to all SkyDancers!

    BB — sounds much healthier to take time for your own self and avoid exposure to trauma. Bonus: you can have exactly what you want for dinner!

    I still won’t be polite around people who don’t want to “make a fuss,” or who say it won’t really be that bad, or to give P-E Loser of the Popular Vote a chance. All those excuses are part of why this happened. I won’t normalize hate and fascism. However, if I have the luxury of mentally boxing up this awfulness to put it aside for a day, I’ll do that to recharge before getting back to the resistance.

  4. Beata says:

    I feel for you, BB. The things you are worried about losing are the same ones I worry about – a place to live, food, clothes, health care. I have them now but for how long?

    So I try to make plans. Should I move to a Blue state? I’ve been in contact with cousins who live on the West Coast but I really want to stay where I am. I love my home state. Does it love me? I will probably find out soon enough. My boyfriend’s mother was English. We have looked into whether he can get British citizenship and we could move there. But he has one child still in school here so that would be difficult.

    To make matters worse, after that fainting episode a few days before the election, I have had a concussion. I thought I was okay but I’m not. So getting out of bed is not only depressing these days, it is difficult physically. My headaches are horrific and I feel confused and nauseated all the time. I can barely remember anything. We have Thanksgiving dinner plans today. I am determined to carry on with them but my heart ( and my head ) isn’t in it.

    The whole thing is a nightmare. I have even discussed an assisted suicide pact with a friend if life becomes unbearable. It is something she wants as well. A way out if necessary. No drama, just a practical plan for both of us.

    • Beata says:

      The persimmon pudding I made is going to Thanksgiving dinner without me. I’m going back to bed where I belong.

    • roofingbird says:

      Appropo of nothing particular, I was reminded of the need for good nutrition right now. Hubby had to go on a “heart healthy” diet for a while, wherein we discovered that almost everythng highest in cholesterol is also the best source of B12. Clams, liver, crab, beef heart, salmon, were examples. From food alone, and assuming your digestion was excellent you would still need 2 eggs every day, and full fat milk. Forget the enriched cereal unless there is no other choice. Lots of bad things happen when you are deficient in this and other vitamins like D. Stress, grief and pain make us all use up our nutrient stores, and add to issues of confusion, depression and joint pain. Hubby was low and is now getting tested for nutrients periodically; it has helped. Happy Thanksgiving everyone! May we all have sufficient acorns and eels for the winter.

      • Beata says:

        Roofingbird, this is very helpful information. Good nutrition is so important. My doctor says I need more B vitamins, fats and especially protein. I’m going to add whole milk and 2 eggs to my daily diet, ASAP, and try to find a way to get the other good foods you mention. I don’t eat cereal except for oatmeal. Thank you for writing this.

      • janicen says:

        roofingbird, a lot of the thinking about the causes of high cholesterol has changed. About two years ago or so, I read that the first longterm study was done comparing a low fat diet to a low carb diet. One group stuck to a low fat diet over the course of one year while the second group limited carbs. All other factors, exercise, activity, etc were managed so that they were the same. Over the course of one year, the low carb group lost more weight, 8 lbs per person, than the low fat group. What surprised me most about the study is that the carb group saw an improvement in their cholesterol levels while the people on the low fat diet had no improvement. The low fat people’s cholesterol levels did not go up, but they did neither did they go down. The low carb people’s cholesterol levels went down although I can’t remember how significantly. We’ve been misinformed and it has a lot to do with lobbyists representing wheat/grain agriculture interests but carbs and sugar are much more detrimental to our health than fats.

        • roofingbird says:

          Agreed. Sometime you have to do what they say until you can prove otherwise. Hubby went in with low blood pressure, sky high triglycerides and cholesterol suddenly after a bunch of other stuff had happened to him. We changed his diet and it came down in 2 weeks, but they still put him on statins. He had side effects; I said check his thyroid, and it was low. He is now normal, off statins and on thyroid medication. He still has other stuff going on and its been a three year saga of life threatening events, but it looks like the next fix will be a heart valve replacement. So. If there is a moral to this, I guess it would be don’t stop until you get all the answers. It never made sense because we eat healthy, and because I’m gluten intolerant, and do most the cooking at home, we eat a lot more veggies and a lot less of the starch based carbs. We are always checking nutrition levels in our house, and labels.

          • joanelle says:

            My acupuncturist was the one who helped most when he said, we’ve tracked everything, you ‘eat clean’ and practice appropriate exercise for a mid-seventy year-old,you should be losing weight.
            He sent me for blood work, and then said what did your doc say about your low thyroid? I told him that for years I’ve had this feeling that my thyroid has been a problem but my doc always told me “oh, it’s a little low, but fine” He then said, let’s do a full thyroid panel on your blood and let’s go Paleo on your food, which was a no brainier for us, since we already were not eating any processed food, but do eat a lot of fresh fruits, vegetables and limit our red meat intake. Well, between my lower than “fine” thyroid and my excessive antibodies he said I’d like you to see an endocrinologist. I did and he prescribed a very low dose,synthetic thyroid pill. So, I take it on an empty stomach once a day, I’ve lost 12 lbs in three weeks, have more energy and better outlook on things!

    • NW Luna says:

      A concussion! No wonder you’re having headaches, confusion and nausea! All those symptoms are common after a concussion — everyone suffering such an injury to the brain will have some effects and most have all those symptoms that you’re going through. The symptoms will start getting better, but the first few days are the worst. The headaches may last for some time, even months (hate to say that, but it may happen), but they will decrease.

      Since you’ve had a concussion, it’s best not to make any important decisions for a while. Did you have a medical evaluation after your concussion? Sounds like they may not have told you what symptoms to expect, or given you any information on the sequelae (they should have known post-concussion memory is bad). Please be especially kind to yourself and don’t do anything very complicated for a while.

      • NW Luna says:

        Wanted to add that ginger is helpful for nausea, and often peppermint tea can be helpful also. Or those acupressure “Sea bands” for motion sickness and sold in many drug stores. Ask for anti-nausea meds, and be aware they may make you feel sleepy. Certainly take something to help decrease the headaches. Gentle forehead/neck massage can be helpful. Acupuncture can help nausea and sometimes headaches, too — if it’s covered or there is a sliding-scale or acupuncture=school clinic near you.

      • Beata says:

        Thank you for the good advice, Luna. I need to take it easy. I’ve been trying to go on like everything is okay. That hasn’t worked.

        Love you and all the Sky Dancers! You are such kind and helpful people.

  5. MsMass says:

    I wake up in the morning thinking- how can I run quickly? Like out of this country..
    I don’t meet the criteria for Canada or New Zealand,so can I learn enough Spanish at my age to go to Costa Rica or Ecuador?

    I was reading an interview with Sarah Kendizor about the progression of dictatorships, I guess you would call them, and she makes this point: ” Once this gets going, if you look at the history of fascist of authoritarian states, it moves extremely quickly. It seems to be that everything is normal, and then little things creep in and then once they have power they will abuse it.”

    From this interview:

    • Pilgrim says:

      Thanks for mentioning this. I’ve now read it. Excellent piece. She’s courageous. I added her Twitter to my bookmarks. Really worth reading.

  6. Pilgrim says:

    BB, let me say, very sincerely, I feel your pain. Not just for myself, but for you. It is painful to think of what you are enduring.

    Let me also say again that your writings are quite rewarding to read. Thank you.

    Thank you, because it’s Thanksgiving Day in the U.S. Here in Ontario, Canada, we are very thankful to live where we do, but very concerned about our neighbours south of the border. And worried too for the world.

    Before this election, I had read Philip Roth’s “The Plot Against America.” Now it keeps coming back to me.

    Many Canadians were very upset by the election outcome. One of my friends said, “It is like watching a scary movie through one’s fingers covering one’s eyes.”

  7. Riverbird says:

    I’m thankful for Sky Dancing. You all have meant a lot to me over the years.

    Thankful that I have the resources to move to another state in the spring.

    I turned down an invitation to dinner with relatives today, where my sister and I would have been the only ones who voted for Hillary. I’m enjoying myself, eating my favorite macaroni & cheese and binge watching Doctor Foster on Netflix.

    • dakinikat says:

      Good for you!! We love you here!

      • joanelle says:

        I was wondering how the day would go. My hubby and I were the only two out of twelve who voted for Hillary. But I invited them all to come as in the past to our home for Thanksgiving dinner. We had a great holiday, no one mentioned anything remotely alluding to the election. Yay!

    • ANonOMouse says:

      Sounds like my kind of Thanksgiving Celebration. Eating what you love and enjoying the simple things in life, conflict free.

  8. William says:

    A few fairlyl brief thoughts.

    I think that Trump is relying on Russians to give him his briefings. They did so all through the campaign. He may be completely a pawn of Russian, who knows? There was a time when the takeover of this government by foreign power would have been a concern to Americans and specifically the media, but apparently no longer. That was in the days when the Republlicans loved to make up stories about how Russia wanted the Democrat to win. Now Russia admits whom they not only wanted, but helped, and no one seems to care. If it’s not an email, it’s not important.

    On the imminent attempt to dismantle Social Security and Medicare. This is one of the greatest affronts to our democratic system that I have seen. This was not an issue in the campaign. Trump even indicated he would not do that. But it was a stealth campaign. We saw it, but most uninformed voters did not, nor did the media. A distinct minority of voters now have the right to take away programs which tens of millions have depended on for decades? The democratic thing to do is to have people protesting in the streets and from the rafters about this hijacking of our government

    .It has come to this because one of the two parties has managed to game the system, take advantage of “flaws” which may not have been flaws had the parties maintained a sense of fairness. But Republicans play for brute power. If they were the minority in the Senate, they filibustered everything. If they were the majority in the House, they annually threatened not to raise the debt ceiling, and thus destroy the full faith and credit of the United States, unless Democrarts caved in on other matters. If they held the majority in the Senate, they would not even let a Supreme Court nominee chosen by the other party to come to the floor for hearings and a vote. In other words, the entire constitutional system is to them a game to be won. A democracy cannot function in such a way. It depends on the consent of the governed, and that includes the party not in power. This is obscene. A minority forces its will on the majority. The rural areas tell the cities what to do, and take their taxpayers’ money. This is what Democrats should be saying every day. It may do some good; and if it doesn’t, then this country is not the one envisioned in the poetry books. And at that point, California should fight to secede from it.

    Other than that, Happy Thanksgiving to all.

  9. William says:

    That last part sounded self-serving. So I will better say, that given this takeover of the majority by the minority, every form of non-violent protest, from economic to social to whatever else one can think of, is not only warranted, but necessary, in order to save our democracy.

    And of course I do sincerely wish everyone here the best Thanksgiving they can have!

    • NW Luna says:

      I object to the part about California seceding without the other Left Coast states — Oregon and Washington!

      Yes, as one of my friends put it — moving from “reasonably comfortable to political activism and resistance” is what we must do. And keep on doing.

      • William says:

        Absolutely, Oregon and Washington can definitely come along! We just need a wall along Arizona and Nevada, or we will have 80 million people in CA!

        • joanelle says:

          I don’t necessarily want to move to the West Coast nor do I want to lose California, Oregon or Washington, but I agree with everything else you said, William. We need to keep pushing to save the bit of Democracy we have left, and begin to rebuild.

      • dakinikat says:

        I so want to get to the west coast now!! I just have to find a doable path!!!

  10. dakinikat says:

    I’m so glad to be able to read each and every thought here when so much going around us is dispiriting! Barbara K’s essay was brilliant. Charles Blow is still letting his anger show and he hammered Piers Morgan on Twitter for being a dick about Blow’s recent Op Ed’s. That’s a good Louisiana man for you! Told Piers straight off to go f himself. I’m still trying to head for Seattle. I have no clear path atm but feel I really need to. love you all and am thankful we’re in this with each other’s love and support.

  11. Minkoff Minx says:

    Happy Thanksgiving! Hope everyone is safe.

    Think we all can use a laugh.

    • dakinikat says:

      Conventional wisdom tells us that the electoral college requires that the person who lost the popular vote this year must nonetheless become our president. That view is an insult to our framers. It is compelled by nothing in our Constitution. It should be rejected by anyone with any understanding of our democratic traditions  — most important, the electors themselves.

      The framers believed, as Alexander Hamilton put it, that “the sense of the people should operate in the choice of the [president].” But no nation had ever tried that idea before. So the framers created a safety valve on the people’s choice. Like a judge reviewing a jury verdict, where the people voted, the electoral college was intended to confirm — or not — the people’s choice. Electors were to apply, in Hamilton’s words, “a judicious combination of all the reasons and inducements which were proper to govern their choice” — and then decide. The Constitution says nothing about “winner take all.” It says nothing to suggest that electors’ freedom should be constrained in any way. Instead, their wisdom — about whether to overrule “the people” or not — was to be free of political control yet guided by democratic values. They were to be citizens exercising judgment,  not cogs turning a wheel.

  12. Fannie says:

    Puts my heart, and head at rest to hear from you all today. Much luv.

  13. ANonOMouse says:

    Sorry I missed stopping by yesterday and wishing all a Happy Thanksgiving.

    I read all of the nutrition suggestions upthread. Let me tell you about my diet. I eat whatever I want, whenever I want. I don’t care about the calories or the fat or the carbs or the cholesterol and I have high cholesterol, but only moderately high. I was on cholesterol meds in my late 40’s to late 50’s. It bothered my muscles and my digestion, not to mention my mood. I took myself off of them and of course my cholesterol came back up, but my digestion got better and my mood returned to normal, which for me is feisty.

    I have no desire to live past 80. All I care about is quality of life and eating is part of that. I’m a bit pudgy, but so what, like most other women I’ve been invisible since my late 50’s.

    Eat, drink and be merry while we can. The fights coming and we’re going to need to experience all of the everyday pleasure we can.

    • teele says:

      “…like most other women I’ve been invisible since my late 50’s.”
      I managed to become invisible earlier than that, and it was something I aimed for. Embrace it. Invisibility allows you to observe more keenly. When you are part of the background and suddenly speak out, it has a shock value not available to those in the noisy foreground.

      • Sweet Sue says:

        Those are very wise words.

      • ANonOMouse says:

        Actually I love being invisible. I’ve made the comment here that I could be a covert agent for the CIA because I can walk into any environment and receive absolutely no attention whatsoever. It’s like having a cloak of invisibility. I make myself heard when I want to be heard and when I don’t I become just an invisible spectator. It’s quite liberating, don’t you think? 🙂

    • Enheduanna says:

      Mouse – you and are couldn’t be more alike sometimes!!!

      First – I’m sorry I haven’t wished everyone a pleasant (as possible) holiday. I’m still in a foul mood and can’t bring myself to act like everything is normal (I have a Trumpster brother who was on my last nerve before this election).

      I also eat what I want although I am very good about cooking and avoiding processed/prepackaged foods. I do have a weakness for some fast foods and am taking care of my 86-yr-old mother so sometimes rely on take-out when cooking is just too much.

      I have what I think is mostly genetic tendency for high cholesterol and also tried statins for about a year. The muscle pains were unbearable and I developed frozen shoulder. After I stopped taking them the pains subsided but I still have limited range of motion in my left shoulder. FK big pharma – I don’t think they test that SHT on women.

      Anyway thanks for being a safe space for me Sky Dancers! Love you ALL.

    • Beata says:

      Those statin drugs are dangerous, IMO. I have never taken them but I know quite a few people who had serious side effects from them. Statins are massive money makers for Big Pharma. Avoid them if you can.

      I don’t worry about high cholesterol, high blood pressure or gaining weight. I already have an inoperable brain tumor so I have enough to worry about. I’m supposed to have 5-6 meals a day to keep my weight up. That can be hard as I have little appetite. I fix meals that I like without worrying that they may have something in them that will kill me 20 years from now. I’ll be dead by then so who cares!

      Eat, drink and be merry is a good philosophy. None of us is getting out of here alive ( except maybe that chick who is having herself frozen ) so enjoy yourself!

      I’m watching Fred and Ginger movies on TCM today. The world may come to an end while I am not paying attention to the news but at least I’ll go happy with lovely dancing and music playing in the background.

      • joanelle says:

        I missed you all yesterday, Grandma (me) was busy cooking and spending time with my children and grandchildren whom I don’t get to be with ‘live’ much since they moved to New Hampshire, or the ‘Shire’ as my daughter-in-law calls it. And really mean I missed you all. This is a very special ‘place’