News Flash: Women still expected not to age or put on weight
Posted: April 10, 2012 Filed under: War on Women, Women's Healthcare, Women's Rights | Tags: Ashley Judd, body dismorphic disorder, women's aging 28 CommentsWe haven’t heard recently from Demi Moore whose meltdown was plastered every where. After having a lot of plastic surgery for a Charlie’s Angels movie and serving as the poster child for Cougar
relationships, she evidently couldn’t deal with the expectations and her aging. Demi’s not the only one whose body and relationships have been the obsession of an older woman hating media and culture. The current object of weight jokes and speculation is pregnant Jessica Simpson. Here’s supposedly feminist Joy Behar heaping the guilt on to Simpson.
The 31-year-old recently posed nude on the cover of Elle magazine, paying tribute to Demi Moore’s iconic cover, and she tweeted about it by making a joke of it.
“Last chance to see me ‘fat’ aka PREGNANT on the cover of Elle,” the mother-to-be tweeted. “I loved this shoot, [and it’s] only on stands for a few more days!”
Just last week while co-hosting The View, Joy Behar slammed Simpson’s weight gain during her first pregnancy. Talking to her fellow morning show hosts, the 69-year-old said: “Remember the time that Jessica Simpson was criticized because she didn’t know the difference between chicken and tuna? That kind of thing is more fun to criticize than the fact that the girl is fat.”
She also added: “Most women who are pregnant are not supposed to gain more than 25lbs. She looks like she gained a lot more than that.”
Sue me, but I think pregnancy weight gain is between a woman and her doctor. I also don’t think it’s very sisterly of Behar to pile on, of course you can use effective methods like latex waist cinchers for weight loss and help yourself a little with that.
Ashely Judd has written an excellent piece on how the media gangs up on women who dare to age, not exercise maniacally and eat like anorexics, or who look okay because if they dare to look okay it must be due some kind of plastic surgery. Judd also hits on the classic woman on woman jujitsu and the messed up meme that a woman who “lets herself go” is also losing her husband, boyfriend, whatever.
This expert from recent post on https://www.newyorkplasticsurgeryallure.com is worth sharing: The Conversation about women’s bodies exists largely outside of us, while it is also directed at (and marketed to) us, and used to define and control us. The Conversation about women happens everywhere, publicly and privately. We are described and detailed, our faces and bodies analyzed and picked apart, our worth ascertained and ascribed based on the reduction of personhood to simple physical objectification. Our voices, our personhood, our potential, and our accomplishments are regularly minimized and muted.
Very few women live their lives with healthy attitudes towards their aging bodies. One of the few brave women has been Jamie Lee Curtis.
Jamie Lee Curtis discusses aging gracefully with co-hosts Gayle King and Erica Hill, live today, April 6, 2012, on CBS THIS MORNING on the CBS Television Network (7:00 AM – 9:00 AM).
Below is an excerpt from the interview.
KING: When there are so many women who don’t want — who are so afraid — to go there with the age. Why are you so comfortable with it?
CURTIS: I am pretty happy with who I am, and what I am doing, and it’s much more about the content of my character than the contour of my face.
We used to talk a lot about this in the good old days of “Our Bodies, Our Selves”. However, most of us were not in the same shape as we are now. We now have an entire category of mental illness called body dismorphic disorder which includes a range of behaviors like anorexia, bulimia and obsessive, perpetual plastic surgery. The Hollywood frenzy feeders appear to feed these tendencies loudly and continually. Judd’s article outlines exactly what she’s experienced. Notice the sources aren’t all Perez Hilton or Joan Rivers.
However, the recent speculation and accusations in March feel different, and my colleagues and friends encouraged me to know what was being said. Consequently, I choose to address it because the conversation was pointedly nasty, gendered, and misogynistic and embodies what all girls and women in our culture, to a greater or lesser degree, endure every day, in ways both outrageous and subtle. The assault on our body image, the hypersexualization of girls and women and subsequent degradation of our sexuality as we walk through the decades, and the general incessant objectification is what this conversation allegedly about my face is really about.
A brief analysis demonstrates that the following “conclusions” were all made on the exact same day, March 20, about the exact same woman (me), looking the exact same way, based on the exact same television appearance. The following examples are real, and come from a variety of (so-called!) legitimate news outlets (such as HuffPo, MSNBC, etc.), tabloid press, and social media:
One of my best friends suffers from body dismorphia. I watched horrified as this friend of mine–a gorgeous woman in her mid-30s came back from a few years in California with all kinds of plastic surgery scars and changes. She was trying to recreate a Glamour spread she had done while a teenager. She also had done a stint on All My Children. I guess this and other experiences contributed to an obsession with plastic surgery. She’s gotten help and is doing well now. But, I was really worried about her for many years. I also worry whenever my very skinny youngest daughter thinks she’s getting fat. Despite the knowledge we now have and diagnosis of this obsession as a mental illness, we still have the press–and other women–perpetuating the mean.
What makes me most sad about this is the number of women in the media–like Joy Behar–that contribute to the sense that no woman has the right to age. It’s also a shame that the same expectations hoisted on us from the pin up girl days to now are still pervasive and doing damage. We need to be brave like Judd and Curtis and speak out against unrealistic views of women’s bodies and our aging processes. The emphasis should be on what is healthy which varies from woman-to-woman. We also should be aware of any false expectations of ourselves and others that are leading to this continuing, unhealthy trend and change our attitudes towards ourselves and other women.
Monday Reads
Posted: April 9, 2012 Filed under: morning reads | Tags: Romney's serial lies, SCOTUS, strip search rule, women justices 27 Comments
Good Morning!
The Supreme Court has gotten more contentious as the three hard right justices feel they can throw their words and weight around more than ever. But what about the three women on the court?
And then there were the Court’s women, Justices Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Elena Kagan and Sonia Sotomayor, who, compared to the verbose right-wingers received less coverage—even as they exhibited qualities that most Americans expect of their highest judges: restraint, focus, nuance, empathy and a respect for exercising the power of federal government.
Is this just more sexism by the press? Are there double-standards when it comes to points made by the women justices, compared to their belligerent male colleagues? The answer, of course, is yes. But let’s look at some of the points that the women made—reinforced, often, by another moderate justice, Stephen Breyer. It reveals Americans would be well served by having more thoughtful, like-minded women—and men—on the Supreme Court.
Check out the Alternet article that reviews some of the women’s impact on the court.
Meanwhile, civil liberties activists and lawyers are trying to make sense of the SCOTUS decision that allows police officers to strip search people even if they are arrested for a routine traffic stop.
The plaintiff in the strip-search case was arrested after a routine traffic stop and jailed for a minor outstanding warrant that may well have been a mistake. Before entering the jail, he was forced to strip, lift his genitals, squat and cough. If that isn’t an assault on human dignity, you might think, what is?
The short answer is that Kennedy couldn’t find a violation of dignity for the petitioner because almost everyone committed to a jail or prison gets similar treatment. (Some states have banned the practice after minor arrests.) Every arrest, even for major offenses, is supposed to take place on the basis of suspicion, not proven guilt. Everyone in jail is equally presumed innocent until proven guilty at trial — or until he or she admits guilt in a plea bargain. To find that all of these people are having their most basic rights violated every day would have been too disruptive to the basic practices of American criminal justice.
As a result, instead of arguing about dignity, the justices disagreed about the practical question of whether invasive strip-searches are reasonably necessary to serve the interests of the jails and prisons. Kennedy’s majority opinion said that they were.
Justice Stephen Breyer, in dissent, pointed to studies finding the opposite. In one, conducted in New York under the supervision of the federal courts, one prisoner out of 23,000 searched had hidden contraband in his body in a way that would have avoided detection by X-ray and a pat-down. A California study found three instances out of 75,000 prisoners strip- searched.
It’s hard to avoid the conclusion that the strip-searches, however well-intentioned when first instituted, now function to humiliate people being put behind bars, sending the message that they are now essentially nonpersons, under the full control of the state.
Robert Reich reminds us that without jobs and decent incomes, our recovery is still very fragile. This is what I’ve been saying for some time. Businesses are only going to hire if they have customers. Customers need jobs and good incomes to be customers. Even though the private sector is growing steadily, there are still huge numbers of layoffs coming from state and local governments. Huge corporations can do business elsewhere. It’s very hard for job seekers to move to where the economy is good if it’s half way around the world.
Remember: consumer spending is 70% of the US economy. Employers won’t hire without enough sales to justify the additional hires. It’s up to consumers to make it worth their while.
But real spending by American consumers (adjusted to remove price changes) this year hasn’t been going anywhere. It increased just 0.5% in February, after an anemic 0.2% increase in January.
The reason consumers aren’t spending more is simple: they don’t have the money. Personal income was up just 0.2% in February – barely enough to keep up with inflation. As a result, personal saving as a percentage of disposable income tumbled to 3.7% in February, from 4.3% in January. Personal saving is now at its lowest level since March 2009.
American consumers, in short, are hitting a wall. They don’t dare save much less than they are now because their jobs are still insecure. They can’t borrow much more. Their home values are still dropping, and many are underwater – owing more on their homes than the homes are worth.
The economy has been growing, to be sure, but almost all the gains have gone to the very top. This is the most lopsided recovery on record.
SOS Hillary Clinton will not be attending the Democratic convention this year. As is tradition, the Secretary of State stays out of national politics to focus on US foreign policy.
Hillary Clinton, perhaps President Barack Obama’s most high-profile cabinet member, won’t be attending this year’s Democratic convention in Charlotte, N.C., citing the duties of her job as secretary of state.
“Given her current position, she will not be attending, consistent with her not engaging in any political activity whatsoever,” Philippe Reines, Clinton’s spokesman, told the Charlotte Observer on Friday.
He added that it will be the first time Clinton will miss a Democratic convention in decades, “possibly all the way back to ’68 in Chicago.”
Malawi has sworn in its first female president.
Vice-President Joyce Banda was sworn in as Malawi’s new head of state on Saturday, the BBC reports. She is the first female head of state in southern Africa. President Bingu wa Mutharika went into cardiac arrest on Thursday, but his death wasn’t officially announced until Saturday. Banda was one of President Mutharika’s most vocal critics. She was expelled from the governing party in 2010 over her criticisms with Mutharika and went on to form her own opposition party.
Ever wonder how Romney gets away with repeating so many lies with very few reporters mentioning it? I’ve watched Rachel Maddow cover it and have just been awed by the number of whoppers that Willard seems to continually drop without even a blink.
Romney denounced Obama for “apologizing for America abroad” during his first years in office rather than focusing on the economy. It’s another silly and inaccurate claim. PolitiFact awarded Romney a “Pants on Fire” rating for having made such a statement during his June 2, 2011, speech announcing his presidential bid. But this line obviously plays well for Romney. He has used it over and over.
I could go on, but the drift is clear. Romney’s speech was loaded with false statements. The various fact-checking sites did pounce on Romney for several of his prevarications. AP also ran a story noting that both Obama and Romney had “warped some realities” in recent speeches. But that article failed to note that the examples it listed for Obama had the president (arguably) spinning political characterizations in his favor, while the Romney examples were flat-out untrue assertions Romney made regarding Obama. Once again, a mainstream media outfit was perpetuating a false equivalency.
Romney stood before a gathering of journalists. He made a series of incorrect and dishonest accusations. And he was not hooted out of the room. He faced no penalty for this—just a few slaps from those pesky, fact-checking schoolmarms. He will not be banned from similar forums. The politerati is not up in arms. His campaign rolled on. And this may well sum up one of the fundamental problems with American politics.
So, enough from me. What’s on your reading and blogging list today?
I’ll take “cancel my membership” for $1,000,000 ALEC
Posted: April 7, 2012 Filed under: just because | Tags: ALEC, corpororatacracy, right wing think tanks 4 Comments
I wrote about the powerful right wing group ALEC and its deep pocket donors last August. It’s basically the source of a lot of cookie-cutter, right wing laws with goals of destroying Unions, Public Health and Education, Abortion access and family planning funding, preventative health care measures, regulation, and replace them with a host of wing nut laws worthy of the Birch Society. ALEC is also dabbling in voter suppression measures like photo ID requirements. Their power has gone basically unchecked until recently when Color of Change launched a campaign targeting ALEC’s biggest corporate donors. Color of Change is an advocacy group for blacks. The voter suppression laws were the inspiration for the campaign. Some of the biggest corporate donor are bailing on ALEC. This is good news.
The companies being targeted included Coca-Cola, PepsiCo, Intuit, Inc., and Kraft Foods — all of which dropped their ALEC memberships as the ColorofChange.org campaign gained steam. Coca-Cola was the first to announce it was jumping the ALEC ship, and the other companies’ announcements soon followed. (Notably, and predictably, missing have been the public statements denouncing voter suppression. Wrote Kraft, “Our membership in ALEC expires this spring and for a number of reasons, including limited resources, we have made the decision not to renew.”)
As each new corporation drops ALEC, the pressure mounts for other corporations to do the same. Meanwhile, both Koch Industries and Wal-Mart, which plan to keep their ALEC affiliation, have been forced to issue public statements reaffirming their support for the dubious group. Quoth a Wal-Mart spokesperson, “Our membership in any organization does not affirm our agreement with each policy created by the broader group.” Convincing!
Will Wal-Mart and Koch, not to mention ALEC, survive this campaign?
Other companies have been targeted and are sitting tight.
According to Reuters, Pfizer, Reynolds American, and Procter & Gamble have all came out in support of ALEC. Tobacco maker Reynolds American said, “ALEC provides a valuable forum for sharing of ideas and fostering better understanding of a broad range of both legislative and business issues.”
Of the three companies who are standing with ALEC, one is a tobacco company and the other is a drug maker. Both of these companies smugly believe that consumers are stuck using their products either due to addiction (Reynolds) or medical need (Pfizer). I would argue that politically inclined Americans who smoke can always change brands, so Reynolds shouldn’t get too comfy.
Pfizer and Proctor & Gamble executives apparently think they are immune to boycott. Pfizer has seen their profits plummet as the patents have or will expire on 42% of their drugs. Pfizer’s profits fell 50% as their patent expired on their top drug Lipitor. The extensive list of Proctor & Gamble brands includes Bounty, Braun, Tide, Head & Shoulders, Vicks, Duracell, Gillette, Iams, Febreeze, Oral-B, and Crest.
The companies that are standing with ALEC are doing so out of arrogance. They don’t believe that a boycott could impact them, but no corporation is completely resistant to boycotts. In order to function and survive, corporations need money. Without money even the biggest corporate giant will eventually fall, and these titans get their nourishment from you and me.
Every time you buy a bottle of Tide, you are supporting Stand Your Ground and voter ID laws. Every night that you grab up your Oral-B toothbrush and brush your teeth with Crest, your money is going to fund the effort to suppress the vote. Dawn may take grease out of your way, but could also make your vote not count on Election Day.
Louisiana has just been hit by ALEC’s school voucher and privatization laws. Most of the anti Public Union laws are also ALEC written. ALEC exposed has a link to all the groups and types of bills that have been boilerplated and sent to right wing elected jerks. You may want to check out the list. ALEC is just another way that extremely rich and powerful corporations are bypassing the democratic process and buying the country’s laws. Here are some of the major areas.
- Worker and Consumer Rights bills (plus Trade, Pensions, Privatization, Banking, Housing, Property Insurance, Transportation, Telecomm & IT)
- Tort Reform and Injured Americans
- Privatizing Schools and Higher Education bills
- Health, Big Pharma, and Social Welfare bills
- Environment, Energy, and Agriculture bills
- Democracy, Voting, and Federal Relations bills
- Tax & Budget bills
- Guns, Prisons, Crime and Immigration bills
Get Well Soon Minx!!!
Posted: April 6, 2012 Filed under: open thread 16 Comments
We’re all pulling for you!!!
Minx is back from surgery and relaxing at home. There were no complications but it looks like she really needed that surgery from what they discovered! Her doctor says she should feel a big difference when she heals!
Minx really does some heavy lifting around here and we are sure missing her!
Here’s hoping she recovers quickly!






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