Saturday Reads: white privilege and the enabling of rape culture

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(Rape and sexual assault trigger warnings)

I went to undergraduate school at the University of Nebraska in Lincoln, Nebraska where I immediately joined the University Women’s Action Group and followed the work I did in high school as a volunteer for what was the the nascent Rape Crisis line set up by the Junior League in Omaha.  I had been assaulted in the choir room at my high school when I was a junior by two seniors.  I was  forcibly held down for a period of time and had bible verses and other things shouted at me.   It made me realize how vulnerable every girl and woman is to the pack mentality of white men and boys with privilege who are taught by their parents, religions, coaches, teachers and friends to go out and grab anything they want because they are told they are the masters of the universe and entitled to go for it.

I worked hard to change the old laws in Nebraska  when I hit college so that violent crimes against women and children would be removed from the Property Crimes Divisions of police departments, so that female police officers were assigned to victims, so that women didn’t need 3 witnesses to their assaults to even be considered assaulted rather than just telling tales, so that husbands could be found guilty of rape, and so that women’s sexual history and facts not pertinent to the rape would not be brought up to slander the victim in court.  I taught basic self defense and lectured at sororities which mostly meant  telling my peers to assume they’d be assaulted at some time so here’s ways to lower your risk.

I wound up helping a friend who had been raped in the stacks at the library through the legal process that re-victimized her. She was afraid to even report the rape since she had been smoking pot earlier in the evening.  This was in the mid 1970s.  My lecture to those girls was to basically warned them to avoid the male athletes; especially the football players and travel and stay in packs in well-lit areas. But how and why should you tell any student to avoid studying in the library?  A serial rapist was later found to haunt there and it proves women can’t assume they are safe anywhere, and that thought rules our lives.

I had planned to be a lawyer at that time and the way the system treated women and children that were assaulted by men was at the top of my list of things I intended to change. At 60, a full forty years later after my core activism, I know now that even systemic changes do not change men like Judge Aaron Persky.  He’s getting some blow back but, he just won another term.  It also hasn’t apparently changed how many boys are raised in this country.

march 1I’d like to think that my work at that time made women and children safer but then I read about Brock Turner, Stanford University where rapes are frequent , Turner’s parents, and our justice system that still metes out justice based on levels of privilege.

Yes, it’s that post.  It’s where we confront a society that raises and enables rapists.  We face a judge and court system that fails when it comes to privileged white males.  My oldest daughter’s first labor day weekend at LSU turned into an ER visit when she was roofied at a local college bar and temporarily paralyzed.  Fortunately, she was with other girls and some properly-raised boys took her to the hospital. Believe me, I never lectured my daughters on much of anything because my mother raised me in fear of all kinds of things like being captured for white slavery. You kinda stop listening to it after awhile and I never wanted that to happen so I chose my lectures carefully.  I lectured my daughters on never, ever leaving their drinks uncovered or unattended at any time. Gigging in the French Quarter left me knowing that the tricks of Bill Cosby live on. Let me tell you about a local eye surgeon on that account … but that’s for another day.

The deal is that we still live in a world where many men think they have a right to anything they want including the bodies of women. To quote one of my favorite lyricists, “you have to be carefully taught.”635922841696028851596381600_no_excuses_sexual_assault_campaign_logo

Well, it’s as good a day as any to discuss how a judge in California enabled a rapist after a jury of his peers delivered a guilty plea on 3 felony accounts.  The six month sentence–which appears to look more like a three month sentence–has outraged the American Public.   Follow this link to CNN for a good understanding of the basics of the case.

Please be aware that this post will contain information that may trigger visceral responses in any of our readers that have been sexually assaulted.  I know that we have quite a few survivors here, so I want to make it clear that this post and the links may upset you. 

Believe me, I’m amazed that our country is finally at the point where a sexual assault case can garner so much attention. I don’t know what got us to that point.  I only know that it’s been a long time coming.  One in five women and one in thirty three men will be the victims of sexual violence at least once in their lives.  An American is sexually assaulted every two minutes. That is no small number.

The victim’s statement to Brock Turner, the former Stanford student convicted of sexually assaulting her, has been viewed online millions of times since last week. A CNN anchor read the statement, in full, on television. Representative Jackie Speier, a California Democrat, read it aloud on the House floor. The case, which resulted in a six-month jail sentence and probation for Turner, has touched off furor among those who say the punishment is too light, and sparked vigorous debate about the intersection of sexual assault, privilege, and justice.

This is an astounding moment, in part because it’s so rare for sexual violence, despite its ubiquity, to garner this kind of attention.

“It’s incredible,” said Michele Dauber, a Stanford Law School professor who has pressed for the recall of the judge who sentenced Turner. “Why did that happen? First of all, it’s the tremendous power and clarity of thought that is reflected in the survivor’s statement.”

“She is helping people to understand this experience in a visceral and clear way,” Dauber added. “And she’s brushing away all the really toxic politics around campus assault that have built up. People have said, ‘How can we really believe these women? It’s his word against hers.’ This men’s rights movement has emerged. And there’s been a lot of rage happening out there. Then, whoosh, [this statement] really reframed it.”

It wasn’t just the statement. In March, Turner was convicted of three felony counts: sexually penetrating an unconscious person with a foreign object, sexually penetrating an intoxicated person with a foreign object, and assault with an intent to commit rape. If it’s rare for someone to report a sexual assault in the first place, it’s even more unusual for that report to result in a conviction. In the vast majority of sexual assaults the perpetrators never serve time in prison—97 percent of cases, an analysis of Justice Department data by the anti-sexual violence advocacy group RAINN concludes.

Another unusual component of the case at Stanford: There were eyewitnesses. Two graduate students were riding their bikes through Stanford’s campus when they saw, “a man on the ground, thrusting toward a body,” The Mercury News reported in March.

rape-culture-4We’ve found out some horrible things since the sentence was handed down. The parents wrote letters to the judge pleading for leniency that are so appallingly clueless and selfish that you wonder how this boy has not become a full blown sociopath. The letters fell on sympathetic ears, however, since the judge himself was a Stanford athlete at one time. I’ve linked to the mother’s newly released letter since the father’s has pretty much gone viral and we’ve discussed it already in some downthread conversations.

A letter to the judge from Brock Turner‘s mother calls the convicted rapist the “most trustworthy and honest person I know.”

The emergence of Carleen Turner‘s glowing assessment of her “beautiful son,” a former Stanford swimmer, comes after his victim’s letter went viral, his father’s letter sparked outrage, andBrock’s own statement maintained the encounter was consensual.

His mother’s letter depicts Brock as a model student and citizen, and she laments the misfortune that has struck her son:

My first thought upon wakening every morning is “this isn’t real, this can’t be real. Why him? Why HIM? WHY? WHY?”

She goes on to describe the devastating effect of this “awful, horrible, terrible, gut-wrenching, life-changing verdict” on her family:

My once vibrant and happy boy is distraught, deeply depressed, terribly wounded, and filled with despair. His smile is gone forever-that beautiful grin is no more. … We are devastated beyond belief. My beautiful, happy family will never know happiness again.

In her concluding plea for mercy, she says Brock isn’t tough enough to survive prison and would be a “target” for other inmates:

I beg of you, please don’t send him to jail/prison. Look at him. He won’t survive it. He will be damaged forever and I fear he would be a major target. Stanford boy, college kid, college athlete- all the publicity……..this would be a death sentence for him.

This is from the mother of a convicted rapist worrying about her son being raped in prison. No one should be raped. EVER. Not even her rapist son deserves to be raped.  But, really, how can anyone be so unaware of the suffering of her son’s rape victim and yet be so concerned about his potential rape?  Here are some new developments found by the press since the story has garnered so much attention.  Turner sent pictures of the rape victim’s breast to his friends.

Investigators believe Brock Turner may have photographed his assault victim’s breasts, then sent the pictures to a group of friends, the Daily Mail reported.

According to police, Turner received a text message via the GroupMe online app asking, “Who’s [sic] t*ts are those” from a fellow swimmer, identified as Justin Buck. However, the picture that prompted the question was deleted from the group chat by an unknown party.

A witness also told police that he saw a man standing over the victim holding his cell phone.

“The cell phone had a bright light pointed in the direction of the female, using either a flashlight app in his phone or its built-in app,” a police statement read.

The witness, identified as Blake Bolton, then “told the male subject to roll her over onto her side to breathe. The male subject did not do this. Bolton then got on his knees and checked her pulse. When he got back up, the male subject was gone.”

USA Swimming has banned Brock Turner for life. 6359704569031235021988308672_michael-courier-rape-culture

The U.S. governing body for the sport of swimming on Friday banned ex-Stanford University swimmer Brock Turner, whose six-month jail sentence for sexually assaulting an unconscious woman has stirred widespread outrage.

Condemning Turner’s “crime and actions,” USA Swimming said that he is not a current organization member and is ineligible for membership.

“Brock Turner’s membership with USA Swimming expired at the end of the calendar year 2014 and he was not a member at the time of his crime or since then,” USA Swimming spokesman Scott Leightman said. “As a result, USA Swimming doesn’t have any jurisdiction over Brock Turner.”

Court documents have been released and show that Brock Turner lied about his past partying exploits. Turner’s parents and the student himself indicated that Stanford made him do it. Evidence shows otherwise.

In a letter submitted to Persky prior to sentencing, Turner said he came from a small town in Ohio and never experienced partying that involved alcohol. But when he started attending Stanford, Turner wrote, he began drinking to relieve the stress of school and competitive swimming. He blamed a “party culture and risk-taking behavior” for his actions.

But prosecutors said they found text messages and photographs that show Turner lied and has a history of partying.

Investigators found photographs of Turner smoking from a pipe and another teammate was holding a bong, according to court documents. A photo of a bong was found as well as a video showing Turner smoking from a bong and drinking from a bottle of liquor.

“Furthermore, there are many text messages that are indicative of drug use, both during the defendant’s time at Stanford and during his time in Ohio when he was still in high school.”

In a message sent to a friend in 2014, Turner asked: “Do you think I could buy some wax so we could do some dabs?” Dabs is a reference to smoking a highly potent form of cannabis, known as honey oil.

Turner also talked about using acid while in high school and at Stanford. He bragged about taking LSD and MDMA together, an act referred to as “candyflippin,” according to prosecutors.

A professor in his Ohio community indicates that Turner’s surroundings enable all kinds of white privilege and bad behavior. It sounds a lot like the place where I grew up.  (H/T to BostonBoomer)635954771090088929640898905_rape-culture-600x400

 The kids walk to school and go home for lunch. The schools are nationally recognized. In fact, the local nickname for Oakwood is “the Dome,” so sheltered are its residents from violence, poverty and inconvenient truths. I have lived here for more than 20 years.

Communities like this one have a dark side, though: the conflation of achievement with being “a good kid”; the pressure to succeed; the parents who shrug when the party in their basement gets out of control (or worse yet, when they host it) because “kids are gonna drink”; the tacit understanding that rules don’t necessarily apply. The cops won’t come. The ax won’t fall.

Yet now it has.

Invariably, when I tell someone who knows the Dayton area that I live in Oakwood, they assume that I am rich, narrow-minded, a Republican or some combination thereof. If most residents were just the stereotype, though, I would not have been happy here as long as I have. For the most part, I have loved raising my kids here. But I have struggled, too. My closest friends and I have a long-standing joke about needing to remember to “lower the bar” around here — about not falling prey to the pressures to conform and compete, not buying the line that the schools or the kids are special. Most of us understand our privilege and good fortune. Many do not.

There is an Oakwood in every city; there’s a Brock Turner in every Oakwood: the “nice,” clean-cut, “happy-go-lucky,” hyper-achieving kid who’s never been told no. There’s nothing he can’t have, do or be, because he is special. Fortunately, most kids like this will march into their predictably bright futures without victimizing anyone along the way. Many will do good in the world.

But it’s not hard to draw a straight line from this little ’burb (or a hundred like it) to that dumpster at Stanford. What does being told no mean to that kid? If the world is his for the taking, isn’t an unconscious woman’s body? When he gets caught, why wouldn’t his first impulse be to run, to make excuses — to blame the Fireball or the girl or the campus drinking culture? That is entitlement. That is unchecked privilege.


I’ve been in conversations about rape, violence, and rape culture for over 40 years.  I feel like there’s not much new that can be added to the conversation although all the wisdom beings in the multiverse know that those of us that really care about this try angles old and new.  It rarely captures public opinion unless it’s part of the rescuing the princess paradigm and that worries me.

It’s interesting that the thing that started this latest outrage also displays intersectionality so we not only see that rape culture is alive and well but the treatment of rapists by judges depends on factors like privilege and race.     My guess is that treatment of victims depends on similar factors. The referenced article is by Shaun King.  I wish he would investigate the justice meted out for poor women and for women that are racially minorities brutalized by men because my guess is they don’t get their day in court let alone their week in the press.  Would this story have gotten so far if the victim was less educated or “articulate”?  If she were a sex worker or poor?  If she were a Hispanic woman who overstayed her VISA?

All victims of rape deserve justice as do all perpetrators.

Mothers and Fathers, don’t let your babies grow up to be rapists.




24 Comments on “Saturday Reads: white privilege and the enabling of rape culture”

  1. Sweet Sue says:

    Thanks for posting this, Dak. It’s tough stuff, I know.
    Between the Brock Turner story and the Christina Grimmie murder, I just want to jump off a bridge, today.

    • dakinikat says:

      Yeah. We do not value women in this culture unless it’s as the prize heifer of some man still. Fuck all that.

      • ANonOMouse says:

        Really good post today Dak. Another case of guilty but privileged white boy goes free. Same story, different day!

    • joanelle says:

      Thank you, for this, but… I assume they have matched the semen to Brock. I haven’t been following this closely but was appalled at the sentence.

      I’ve read of cases where ‘witnesses’ were actually the perpetrators.

  2. dakinikat says:

    Beware The Adorable Rapist

    Why do we give mandatory jail sentences of decades to non-violent drug offenders, but fail to significantly incarcerate rapists like Brock Turner? Certainly, in Turner’s case, his blond hair and blue eyes played a role. I can’t imagine a black kid in the same situation getting the six-month slap-on-the wrist that Judge Aaron Persky gave Turner. Class, too, played a role. Turner comes from a background so privileged, the judge thought that jail time “would have a severe impact” on him (isn’t that what jail time is supposed to do?). White male privilege is alive and well.

  3. palhart says:

    Brock’s parents do not believe he committed a crime and, even if he might have, he shouldn’t be punished because the party college culture made him do it.

    He should have been sentenced at least to the minimum 2 years.

    She was fortunate, and she knows it, that a pair of Swede graduate students
    witnessed the rape or the yellow-belly
    golden boy would have gotten away with it. It’s unbelievable that he took a picture of her before leaving, like it was a prize African Safari animal he had wounded. He did wound his victim in ways he, his parents. the judge, and
    a majority of people ignore, and have done so forever. I don’t see too much hope that attitudes are changing, except the jury got it.

    It’s not enough that he’s being punished bey the court of opinion, Stanford, and USA Swimming, he should have been given a hefty sentence and served time. He’s a rapist.

    • dakinikat says:

      At least he’s got the sex offender label on him–and all that implies–for a life time. Maybe they can sue him in civil court for all kinds of damages given he’s taken a pic, etc. Bet Gloria Allred can find an angle.

      • bostonboomer says:

        That would be good. I hope the victim has the strength and funds to do that.

      • Earlynerd says:

        Nope – USA v. Morrison took away all that in 2000. The death knell of any real teeth in the 1994 Violence Against Women Act. It declared the most important provision, the right of a victim of male violence to sue her attacker, unconstitutional.

        Look it up on any search engine you use. Read any feminist lawyer’s opinion on it (Catharine MacKinnon has a very good one) to understand just how much this decision eviscerated the one step forward women had gained in 20 years against this culture’s tolerance of male violence against women.

        But then you have to wonder why most women keep looking away, keep ignoring these kinds of decisions, keep saying “Oh, well, what can you do?” but still retain some kind of outrage over injustice done to any other kind of person. I think a lot it has to do with most women being overwhelmingly male-identified, and -that- is due to their being dependent financially on men for everything that makes life worth living, like their homes, the SUVs they drive, the neighborhoods they live in and send their kids to school from, the income to eat out. All the little perks that make life comfortable rather than not depend on men’s wages, not women’s. Change that, and everything else would change too.

        • janicen says:

          Internalized misogyny is deeply ingrained. Make women’s wages, especially later in their careers, equal to men’s wages and so much male power disappears. I don’t think it’s fair to paint women as greedy and selfish, they are victims of the misogyny that is everywhere in patriarchy.

    • palhart says:

      I’ve been reading a 52 page police account of the rape. I don’t recommend it since it’s very detailed and repetitive. However, in the broader reports, “beautiful boy”, kind, and all that rubbish LIED about his clean record before attending Stanford. It’s on record that he drank and did drugs: LSD, weed, and MDMA. He was arrested at Stanford for underage drinking (legal drinking age is 21). The weekend before the rape his aggressive moves toward women had ‘creeped out’ a woman. He had been aggressive toward victim’s sister at the January 18th KA party.

      He is serving his short time in protective custody in the sheriff’s main jail, along with 90 other inmates.

      A person can win and earn all kinds of awards and achievements and remain a creep.

  4. bostonboomer says:

    Excellent post.

    I really don’t think this case will change much, unfortunately. Remember how outraged people were about past cases–the young girl who was raped by 8 or 9 men down south somewhere, the cheerleader in TX who was forced to cheer for her rapist, the girl in Ohio who was raped after a party and photos sent around? So many cases get attention for a time, but what really changes.

    • dakinikat says:

      Thx. You know I’ve been building up to this. Thanks for those links. I used the one you sent me last night as you can see. I really hope we get some kind of marginal change. Unfortunately, it’s all we can ever hope for …

    • Jslat says:

      The only avenue to changing is for men to understand and make changes in themselves. Conversations about the problem and the effect of rape and the threat of rape are now part of women’s culture. Women talk about it but most men avoid the conversation or change the subject when it comes up.

      Thankfully not all men are rapists. Women work on self-protection to avoid not being victims. But it is men who are responsible and men who must teach other men. Any man gets it when a man is afraid of being raped if he goes to prison. Women are essentially in a prison environment every day and night (it’s a lifetime sentence.). The Sanford rape victim has opened the conversation but Men must move to change the male culture that now prevails.

  5. bostonboomer says:

    As for Shaun King, he has made an complete fool of himself with his support of Bernie Sanders and lies about Hillary. It seems that his article mostly focuses on what happens to perpetrators–not surprised.

  6. RalphB says:

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  7. janicen says:

    Thank you for this post, dak. I just got home and I’ve been thinking about this all day, eager to get home and read your post. I think that one of the reasons this case is resonating so widely is because of the victim’s courageous, detailed letter describing her ordeal. Sadly, I also think that the fact that there were two eyewitnesses lends inescapable credibility to the victim’s experience and to the victim herself. Had it not been for these eyewitnesses, people would have been less inclined to believe her. The witnesses testified that she had been unconscious. Good for the case, but what a shame that that’s what is necessary in order for people to believe that a woman was raped. I really think that if there had not been witnesses, we would be hearing and reading a lot more speculation about whether or not she had consented.

  8. Massive shooting at Orlando Gay nightclub. 20 dead 42 injured. Will put up post shortly.