Friday Reads

tumblr_m606wf7J3K1rrnekqo1_1280 Good Morning!

I think most of us that have lived awhile can attest to the fall in lifestyle and standards of living in the country.  I think it’s been rather obvious that it’s much more difficult to “get ahead” more than at any other time in recent U.S. history.  I ran across some interesting articles that sort’ve validated my gut feeling so I thought I’d share them with you.  I hope you don’t find them too depressing.  The first one indicates that the longevity of U.S. women just isn’t what it used to be. Why are U.S. women dying younger than their mothers?

Whether you think the Affordable Care Act is the right solution or a dangerous step toward tyranny, it’s hard to dispute that the U.S. health-care system is broken. More than 48 million people lack health insurance, and despite having the world’s highest levels of health-care spending per capita, the U.S. has some of the worst health outcomes among developed nations, lagging behind in key metrics like life expectancy, premature death rates, and death by treatable diseases, according to a July study in theJournal of the American Medicine Association.

For some Americans, the reality is far worse than the national statistics suggest. In particular, growing health disadvantages have disproportionately impacted women over the past three decades, especially those without a high-school diploma or who live in the South or West. In March, a study published by the University of Wisconsin researchers David Kindig and Erika Cheng found that in nearly half of U.S. counties, female mortality rates actually increased between 1992 and 2006, compared to just 3 percent of counties that saw male mortality increase over the same period.

“I was shocked, actually,” Kindig said. “So we went back and did the numbers again, and it came back the same. It’s overwhelming.”

Kindig’s findings were echoed in a July report from University of Washington researcher Chris Murray, which found that inequality in women’s health outcomes steadily increased between 1985 and 2010, with female life expectancy stagnating or declining in 45 percent of U.S. counties. Taken together, the two studies underscore a disturbing trend: While advancements in medicine and technology have prolonged U.S. life expectancy and decreased premature deaths overall, women in parts of the country have been left behind, and in some cases, they are dying younger than they were a generation before. The worst part is no one knows why.

I’ve always thought that the American Lifestyle that you find touted on TV and at most restaurants and stores is really at odds with living well.   Here’s an interesting vandongenkees-lucieandherpartner-inkblueskylist of items that also reminds me why I always wanted to just stay in Europe whenever I visited there. Are Europeans better at just living life?  Here’s one of the statistics that makes me realize how overworked the U.S. worker is and why we all just sort’ve wear out at some point in time.

Europeans:

The top seven nations in the world, in terms of time off? All European. Austrians get 35 (35!) paid days off per year. Nobody criticizes them for being lazy.

Americans:

Meanwhile, the U.S. is the sole developed nation that requires no paid vacation time or holidays by law.

There’s a lot of fun comparisons there including cars, cheese, and sports.  The link is good for a few smiles.

So, I lot of people subscribe to the idea of peak oil.  I’ve always thought I’d really rather go solar or some alternative for energy in the future since fossil fuels have such incredible problems.  I’m not all that concerned about an oil shortage, but a cocoa bean shortage?  That’s a completely different matter!!!

The world will officially run out on October 2, 2020.

Industry experts met in London last week to discuss the impending meltdown.

Confectionery giants revealed there are just not enough cocoa plantations across the globe to feed the demand.

They warned we would need the ­equivalent of another planet Earth to fill the gap needed to keep the chocolate ­industry going.

Prices are set to soar over the next few years as chocolate becomes harder to get hold of.

As a result many big-name ­companies are ­expected to fill bars that are smaller in size with more nuts and fruit because they are cheaper to produce.

Chocolate taster and expert Angus Kennedy said: “There will be a chocolate shortage and there isn’t a solution to the problem. Seven years is what we think we have left.

“Experts have worked out we need 2.3 globes to accommodate man’s needs for chocolate in terms of forestry and space.

“We need another Earth basically if we carry on at this rate. We are ­destroying the whole thing.

“The problem we’ve got is that much of the space that was used for cocoa ­plantations is no longer there.

“The Chinese love their cars and they have found that rubber makes more money than cocoa and at a much quicker pace.

“Cocoa farms are being chopped down and turned into rubber ­plantations because they get a ­better yield.

“If you plant a cocoa plant you get cocoa beans in four years, which means the farmers are ­waiting four years for a profit so ­obviously they think ‘What is the point?’”

Manufacturers from all over the world including Iran, Belgium, Lebanon, Germany and Switzerland met at the British Library last week for the annual Chocolate Industry Network Conference where they heard the worrying news.

3307_o_matisse_musiqueAt all curious about real US CIA agents in clandestine service?  Try reading this article at Newsweek.

After a stint in the Marines, Archibald began his CIA career as a weapons man in the agency’s special activities division – the “knuckle-draggers,” as they’re known around headquarters – during the Bosnian civil war. From there, he made it into the agency’s elite spy corps, rising to the rank equivalent of general in Pakistan.

How Archibald got his new job remains a mystery to everyone Newsweektalked to. One source thought he’d caught the eye of David Petraeus, whose brief tenure as CIA chief was short-circuited in 2012 by an extramarital affair. Other agency veterans think current CIA director John Brennan liked the former Marine’s non-confrontational style. Bonus points: There was not a whiff of scandal in his background, unlike that of the acting chief, who was closely identified with harsh interrogations and passed over in favor of Archibald. She stayed on as his deputy.

One agency veteran has a more nuanced take on the appointment: “Brennan is his own clandestine ops chief.” Another added, “[Brennan] doesn’t like anyone to argue with him much.”

But there are plenty of things to argue over, insiders say, starting with the layers upon layers of assistants to deputy assistants that clog the agency’s chains of command. Many agency old-timers are also dismayed that the CIA’s core mission of spying on major adversaries seems to have been eclipsed by constant commando raids and drone strikes against terrorist targets. All that, they contend, diverts the agency’s finite resources, time and attention from finding out what’s really going on inside Vladimir Putin’s Kremlin, China’s weapons labs or Iran’s nuclear program.

What does Frank Archibald think? Sorry. We can’t ask him.

Today is payday for hundreds of thousands of federal workers.  What will they get?

The paycheck federal workers have been dreading hit bank accounts across the region Friday, representing salaries cut in half for most idled employees. The next payday will be all zeros, and with furloughs dragging on, civil servants are settling into a financial crouch, slashing expenses, canceling vacations, tapping retirement savings and taking second jobs.

“We have no income coming into the house right now, but the bills haven’t stopped,” said John Ferris of Falls Church. He is in a two-furlough marriage; both he and his wife, Lena, are locked out of jobs at the Environmental Protection Agency. With both of their paychecks dwindling, the family of six has put a scalpel to the household budget.

They’ve cut out restaurants and expensive groceries. Gone are the motel stays at their kids travel softball tournaments; instead, they drive all night. But the most painful cut has been a furlough of their own, laying off their autistic son’s longtime reading specialist.

“He’s been with our family for years, and I love him to death, but I thought, ‘Wow, how am I going to pay him if we don’t have paychecks coming,’ ” Lena Ferris said. She worries that one of the shutdown’s lasting aftershocks could be her son’s having to adjust to a new tutor. “He needs money, too,” she said of the tutor. “I’m worried he’s going to start working for another family.”

Federal workers say they were hugely relieved by last week’s House vote toguarantee the missed pay after the furlough’s over. But that hasn’t eased their anxiety over the bills stacking up in the meantime. Some parents are stretching to pay for day care they don’t need just so they don’t lose their slots while waiting to go back to work. All around the region, the furloughed are looking for money to satisfy their creditors or begging fauvism3them for more time to pay their bills.

“A lot of our members have been asking to skip a payment,” said Pamela Hout, chief executive of the Census Federal  a Credit Union. Her staff has been working a few hours a week at the nearly deserted Census Bureau headquarters in Prince George’s County to meet the demand. “We’ve been accommodating them; all they have to do is show us their [furlough] letter.”

I need to add one more thing before I sign off this morning.  This is the month that we need to renew our domain and our ability to customize things here.  The bill is about $100  per year so just a bit of a donation to the blog would be much appreciated.  The specialized font comes due in about a month after that so any thing above that will be held until that comes due!!!  Thanks so much!!!

So, that’s my little bit of this and that on a Friday.  What’s on your reading and blogging list today?


105 Comments on “Friday Reads”

  1. Pat Johnson's avatar Pat Johnson says:

    They are going to get their way.

    Somehow, someway they are going to “eke” out some kind of a deal that will allow them to take another step forward and smash the New Deal into bits because that has been the plan all along. Slow and steady wins the race.

    You can’t “negotiate” with people who deny climate change. Who refuse to understand what a financial crisis will do to the global economy. Who believe they are acting on “god’s will” even if it means leaving children hungry as they do it. Who loathe the word “government” and refer to the bible as their source for justification. How is it possible to find common ground when dealing with this mindset? It isn’t.

    To get the government back up and running there must be a compromise bargain struck with the 60 to 80 intransient lawmakers who view their position as the “Holy Grail”. And a self absorbed Speaker of the House whose only goal is to maintain the title he believes is his alone.

    So a “deal” of sorts will be worked out and the “winners” will be those who hold the government in contempt assured that this is their chosen duty while the rest of us “make do” until the next crisis comes along and we must watch more of our “entitlements” heaped upon the burn pile.

    This is how it works nowadays.

    • RalphB's avatar RalphB says:

      Breaking: After viewing new polls, House GOP not only planning on reopening government but considering opening second government for good measure.

      • minkoffminx's avatar JJ Lopez Minkoff says:

        That is funny, but one thing, how they gonna pay for that second government?

        • RalphB's avatar RalphB says:

          Same as the first, I guess 🙂

          Obama gave the GOP enough rope and they hung themselves this time. The new NBC/WSJ poll is jaw droppingly bad for the Republicans. I hope those attitudes hold a little for 2014 and it’ll be Bye Bye GOP House.

          • minkoffminx's avatar JJ Lopez Minkoff says:

            Geez, I hope so. If that happened, and with Yellen in the Fed…I would actually be able to breathe.

          • bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

            If the polls stay this way, the GOP will lose the House, no matter how much gerrymandering they do.

  2. minkoffminx's avatar JJ Lopez Minkoff says:

    They warned we would need the ­equivalent of another planet Earth to fill the gap needed to keep the chocolate ­industry going.

    Oh gawd, what the fuck am I going to do!

  3. ANonOMouse's avatar ANonOMouse says:

    Jon Stewart to red states: ‘What do you hate more? Poverty or Obama?’

    That’s an easy question to answer, Obama!!!

    http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2013/10/11/jon-stewart-to-red-states-what-do-you-hate-more-poverty-or-obama/

  4. RalphB's avatar RalphB says:

    Ah, Republican civil wars, how lovely.

    tpm: Establishment GOPers Assail Tea Party On Shutdown

    DES MOINES, Iowa (AP) — From county chairmen to national party luminaries, veteran Republicans across the country are accusing tea party lawmakers of staining the GOP with their refusal to bend in the budget impasse in Washington.

    The Republican establishment also is signaling a willingness to strike back at the tea party in next fall’s elections.

    • Pat Johnson's avatar Pat Johnson says:

      Really, because it was only a few years ago they were seeking some of the dumbest people on the planet to run in their primaries and succeeded as more idiots volunteered to step up to the plate.

      They then managed to redraw the district lines to ensure that success would last for generations and we are now stuck with the likes of Steve King and a few other morons whose districts are considered “safe”.

      As it is the nation is currently in the grasp of the most stupid people to have ever run for office in one faction alone – the Tea Party.

      These people could not pass a high school civics test if their lives depended upon it yet they are at present – and possibly the future – elected lawmakers who do not possess a clue.

      • RalphB's avatar RalphB says:

        Just goes to show you better be careful what you wish for, cause you might get it.

      • minkoffminx's avatar JJ Lopez Minkoff says:

        You are right about that Pat, these politicians are stupid…and they were put there by a bunch of stupid people….but these politicians are also are forcing their stupidity on everyone else and that is bullshit. Oh, I might also add that those politicians also got funding help from the rich ass people who want to rule over the stupid people who voted for those politicians.

  5. RalphB's avatar RalphB says:

    Are Europeans better at living life than Americans? Yes but so are Australians and just about everyone else Down Under. I don’t think it’s hard to live better though since our Puritan ancestry and flawed work ethic make us a ridiculous people on the whole.

    • NW Luna's avatar NW Luna says:

      Too true. And now with the government shutdown idiocy, the USA is a laughingstock to the rest of the world.

    • bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

      That’s the same thing I was thinking. I think we suffer from our Puritan roots as well as the wild west individualism of people who settled the frontier. You can really see the Puritan, Calvinist influences here in New England. It’s amazing how culture can persist over centuries.

      • Mary Luke's avatar Mary Luke says:

        BB, don’t forget the Irish Jansenist heresy influence, which was really what many Irish immigrants believed and is an offshoot of Calvinism. Calvin, Roman Catholic style. Those were a large percentage of the Irish immigrants, and that is what makes the American R.C. church so extremely anti-woman…the body is evil heritage.

  6. ANonOMouse's avatar ANonOMouse says:

    Ted Cruz is on TV right now FRC Action. He’s getting cheered & heckled

  7. minkoffminx's avatar JJ Lopez Minkoff says:

    Hey, Bebe passed her written driver’s test. She got her learners permit! Yay!

  8. bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

    Very interesting post.

    I think this is the link to the Newsweek article on the CIA.

    http://mag.newsweek.com/2013/10/11/nice-invisibility-cloak.html

  9. RalphB's avatar RalphB says:

    This should be good…

    tpm: Now You Can Go Window Shopping For Obamacare Coverage

    A common critique of the federal Obamacare health insurance marketplace has been that people aren’t able to look at their coverage options without completing a cumbersome and glitchy application that’s left many consumers stranded. If you want to encourage people to sign up, the critics have said, make it as easy as possible for them to see what their choices are and what they’ll pay — before they have to go through the entire application process.

    Well, that’s been fixed.

    The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services added Thursday a premium estimation tool to the marketplace’s website. By answering a few questions — What kind of coverage are you looking for? How many people are you buying for? — consumers can see specific plans available in their area and an estimated monthly premium.

    • NW Luna's avatar NW Luna says:

      Amazing that it took them until now to realize people want to know the price and what’s covered first. Better late than never.

      • Right? I went and tried to get estimates on the first day, and I was expecting there would be high traffic, so I didn’t mind *that* kind of glitch–to me that glitch is good, it says expand healthcare 🙂

        But, I wasn’t expecting not to be able to get an estimate first. Good they fixed it.

      • RalphB's avatar RalphB says:

        It’s one of the nuttier things about the original rollout design. Chances are there are bugs with the backend databases which look like front end errors as well. Some of the error messages I’ve seen in stories on the net are low level Oracle errors which have been caught and propagated out without any translation. Certainly fixable but not overnight in some cases,

        • bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

          I’m not surprised there are multiple glitches. I’d be surprised if there weren’t.

          • RalphB's avatar RalphB says:

            Me 2, Probably designed by committee and built by multiple contract companies. An error waiting to happen.

  10. bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

    Ha ha ha!

    John Sununu tells Ted Cruz it’s time for someone to act like a grownup.

    Establishment GOPers Assail Tea Party On Shutdown

  11. janicen's avatar janicen says:

    One thing to remember about the federal workers going without paychecks, only the people who actually work for the government are going to get back pay. There are many thousands of contract workers out there who work for consulting firms and the like who are just screwed. They are going without paychecks and nobody is going to make that up to them. Fuck the Tea Party. A pox on all their houses.

  12. NW Luna's avatar NW Luna says:

    Surprise, surprise. But nice to see this get in the MSM.

    Report: Obama most secretive since Nixon

    The report says the Obama administration has curbed the disclosure of government information, limited the use of the Freedom of Information Act, launched a program of internal surveillance and conducted an unprecedented number of investigations of journalists.

    • RalphB's avatar RalphB says:

      I wpuldn’t trust a report by the Committee to Protect Journalists any further than I could throw Glenn Greenwald to be anything more than spin.

      • bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

        BTW, I saw on twitter that Greenwald and the Guardian may have released personal details about undercover British agents. I haven’t found details yet.

        That the Obama admin. is secretive has been discussed heavily in the corporate media, which isn’t at particularly supportive of Obama anymore.

        • RalphB's avatar RalphB says:

          With the leaks they have had, I don’t blame them for cracking down. There are loads of Bushies left all through agencies.

      • NW Luna's avatar NW Luna says:

        I just think it’s a good thing that the non-transparency and whistleblower targeting of this administration gets more publicity.

        • bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

          Yes, and I’m saying it has been getting a lot of publicity and for a long time–especially lately. Even in 2008, the media was writing that Obama’s campaign was the most secretive ever. And it’s true. My biggest complaint is that Obama won’t release the rest of the JFK files, which were supposed to be available this year. The CIA just won’t let go.

          But in fact the “whistle-blower targeting” has been exaggerated beyond belief. None of the whistle-blowers everyone is crying about has gotten heavy jail time (like Ellsberg–his case was dropped). Bradley Manning is in a different category because he was active military, but he is going to be out in 6-7 years at the most. Others have had their cases dropped or gotten brief jail sentences.

  13. bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

    Another brilliant remark from Ted Cruz: Obama will ‘start quartering soldiers in people’s homes soon’

    http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2013/10/11/ted-cruz-obama-will-start-quartering-soldiers-in-peoples-homes-soon/

  14. bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

    OMG, this guy is a doctor!

    Fox News’ Ben Carson: ‘Re-educate the women’ because ‘they get all riled up’ over abortion

    Newly hired Fox News contributor Dr. Ben Carson proposed on Friday to “re-educate the women” so that they would stop having abortions.

    Speaking to a group of overwhelmingly Christian attendees at the Values Voter Summit, the retired neurosurgeon said that your health “is the most valuable thing that you have.”

    “And that’s the reason that your health should be controlled by you and not be the government,” he explained. “But when we’re talking about things that are important, life is important. And that includes the life of the unborn.”

    “You know, there are those of us in this society who have told women that there’s a war on them because that cute little baby inside of them, they may want to get rid of it and there are people that are keeping you from doing that,” Carson continued. “And women say, ‘No, no, they’re not doing that to me! No!’ And they get all riled up.”

    He added there was obviously not a “war on women” because men give up their seats to pregnant women.

    “There is no war on them, the war is on their babies,” Carson insisted. “Babies that cannot defend themselves. Over the past few decades, we have destroyed 55 million of them. And we have the nerve to call other societies of the past heathen.”

    “What we need to do is re-educate the women to understand that they are the defenders of these babies.”

    • Beata's avatar Beata says:

      Dr. Ben Carson was one of the country’s top neurosurgeons before he retired from Johns Hopkins. He once looked at my MRIs. Sad that his emotional and political intelligence doesn’t match his skill as a surgeon.

      • bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

        That’s the understatement of the Century. I’m glad to know he was a good surgeon anyway.

    • NW Luna's avatar NW Luna says:

      “cute little baby inside of them”

      Has he ever looked at a fetus? Apparently not.

      • bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

        Yeah, that was bizarre.

      • Beata's avatar Beata says:

        Ben Carson was known for performing some amazing neurosurgical operations on pediatric patients at Johns Hopkins. I completely agree, however, that his publicly stated views are truly bizarre. Very strange coming from someone who was so brilliant in his field of neurosurgery.

    • minkoffminx's avatar JJ Lopez Minkoff says:

      Went to change the Facebook page BB and I saw my friend out in Iowa singing this mans praises…I feel sick right now.

  15. “Greg Abbott has a single-digit lead over Democrat Wendy Davis in the likely matchup for governor next year,
    a new poll of registered voters shows.” — Dallas News, 10/2/2013

    — with 50% reporting they are “undecided.”

    • ANonOMouse's avatar ANonOMouse says:

      What’s your take on that poll Mona? Is it good news, or is it typical that the candidates are that close this far out? I know nothing about TX politics.

    • RalphB's avatar RalphB says:

      Paul Burka in Texas Monthly: What the NBC-Wall Street Journal Poll Means

      How might these numbers affect Texas politics? What stands out is that the person who is closest to Ted Cruz is the Republican frontrunner for governor, Greg Abbott. How is Abbott going to react to his party’s attempt to shut down the federal government? Does he stand by his protege? Has the public’s reaction to the shutdown changed the governor’s race and put Abbott in danger? Since the 2012 election, I have been cautioning that the Republicans cannot build a wall around Texas.

      In fact, I think Abbott could well be in danger. He has based his candidacy on his propensity to sue the federal government on behalf of Texas.

      Check this out. It’s nice to see Burka admit it. Bet it felt like getting a tooth pulled for him.

      • bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

        Very interesting questions. I hope the issue won’t be forgotten when Texans vote.

        • RalphB's avatar RalphB says:

          Abbott made him solicitor general of the state. Without Abbott, there is no Crtuz. I doubt Wendy will let people forget, since Cruz poll numbers are now upside down here.

  16. bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

    Bob Woodward: Obama Needs to Get on With ‘Entitlement’ and Tax ‘Reform’

    WOODWARD: In this book, you can see there are some ideas that they both have, believe it or not, that would be good for the country, be good for everyone. For instance, entitlement cuts.

    TAPPER: Right. Everybody agrees that the current state of these social safety net programs is on an unsustainable path.

    WOODWARD: Totally unsustainable. When I interviewed the president about this for the book, he said, oh, yes, it’s bad politics for Democrats but then he went on to say it’s untenable to not do this.

    Now, how much have we cut or reformed entitlements in the Obama presidency? Zero. They need to get on with that task. This is where Paul Ryan, maybe has come up with a good idea.

    TAPPER: Big bargain, yes.

    WOODWARD: Yes — well, at least do some reform on entitlements and do something that’s really serious about tax reform. That’s what needs to be fixed.

    Never mind jobs. Those are just for the hoi polloi. What we really need is to give more tax cuts to rich people and and throw old folks, mothers, and children into the streets to starve. And Jake Tapper isn’t a journalist. What an asshole.

    • bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

      Now I even regret buying All the President’s Men and The Final Days. And seeing the fawning movie.

  17. ANonOMouse's avatar ANonOMouse says:

    Report: Tea party group FreedomWorks is in deep financial trouble

    http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2013/10/11/report-tea-party-group-freedomworks-is-in-deep-financial-trouble/

    Is there a SMIRK emoticon? If so I’d like to use it because I’m smirking right now.

  18. RalphB's avatar RalphB says:

    The ACA seems to be doing pretty damn well here…

    Bending the curve

    Dr Aaron Carrol at the Incidental Economist did some window shopping on the Indiana Exchange and discovered significant system wide curve bending:

    Silver plans for an individual range from $278 to $301 a month (before subsidies). This is far less than what the state released a while ago. For a family like mine, silver plans range from $938 to $1018 a month (before subsidies). What’s more, even the gold plans range from only $1175 to $1329 a month.

    Since we know that the average employer sponsored health insurance plan for a family in the US is $16,351, that means the most expensive gold plan on the exchange, at $15,948, is cheaper. Let me say that again: The most expensive plan I could find for a family line mine on the Indiana Health Insurance Exchange is less expensive than the average employer sponsored health insurance plan in the US.

    • NW Luna's avatar NW Luna says:

      This sounds good, but you have to figure in the co-pays and deductibles and out-of-pocket costs. Those can add significantly more.

      • bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

        Don’t employer plans have those too? The problem is that in state like Indiana that won’t expand Medicaid, the subsidies won’t be as good for poorer people. And that Medicaid expansion is paid for 100 percent by the Feds.

        • NW Luna's avatar NW Luna says:

          Sure, and that’s what has to be figured in. It’s like advertising sale items as “up to 80% off” when there is one 80%-off item and zillions of 20%-off items.

          Comparisons are also difficult to make quickly, due to differences in what providers and hospitals are covered. Most of the new plans for 2014 coverage here in my state don’t include the region’s tertiary children’s hospital (which is odd, because it was covered under nearly all previous plans.)

          Oh, definitely things are better with the ACA, but I’m still going to critique it 😉

  19. Fannie's avatar Fannie says:

    My friend’s brother is visiting next week……….he quit his job after learning that he had colon cancer, and he doesn’t want anything, no doctors, no surgery, disability, or medical help………he wants nothing, but to die with dignity. I’ve been invited per family friends to encourage him to seek help, but I don’t know, I told them, they should be prepared if he doesn’t have the will to live, or is caught up in this medical revolution to the point, that no one can help. I’ve got all the numbers (phone), and I am trying to get a case manager/social worker to come in and advocate for him. After thinking about him & his alternatives, I’ve been taking power naps to help me deal with this…………..not to mention that Social Security is shut down.

    • minkoffminx's avatar JJ Lopez Minkoff says:

      That is a tough situation. And damn stressful on you Fannie, power naps are good.

      • minkoffminx's avatar JJ Lopez Minkoff says:

        I would also say, don’t bring a talking pillow into the room…whatever you do. 😉

      • Fannie's avatar Fannie says:

        Thanks – I don’t intend on doing a lot of talking……….but listening, and repeating what I hear them say. What I can do is offer some resources for the family (including hospice), and a lot of hugs. What works for others, may not work for him. I hope he doesn’t further isolated because of his health status, and that they keep communications open between the families.

        Talking it out with those he loves is where it’s at, and hospice can help keep him in the home.

    • bostonboomer's avatar bostonboomer says:

      Wow Fannie. That sounds really stressful. Please take care of yourself.

    • Beata's avatar Beata says:

      Don’t make yourself sick trying to help, Fannie. You can only do so much.

      I can understand how your friend’s brother feels. Perhaps what he wants is right for him – to die with dignity. I believe that is a legitimate choice. Maybe he would accept hospice help if nothing else.

      Peace be with you all.