Happy Mother’s Day

Wishing everyone a Happy Mother’s Day, please hug your mamas…

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12 Comments on “Happy Mother’s Day”

  1. bostonboomer says:

    Happy Mother’s Day to you JJ and to all Sky Dancing Moms!

  2. roofingbird says:

    My mom is dead and gone since a little before the 2016 debacle. We didn’t get along on so many levels, but she tried her very best with the skills she had, as did I. She was discouraged about the state of affairs then and so looking forward to Clinton as President. I’m grateful for the timing of her death. Of one thing I am sure, she would be very concerned about the war on all of our mothers, on our children and our mother planet, Gaia. What else can Mothers Day be, but a rededication?

  3. Enheduanna says:

    My mother is 88 and still hanging on although her mind is going a bit soft. She went through a lot for us when we were young, thanks to my philandering neglectful father. That was at the height of the Mad Men era. Anyway I’ll never forget she fed us every day and the only fast food joint was McDonald’s – 20 miles away, so it was all home cooked. She read Charles Dickens to us while we were in elementary school! I’ll always be grateful to her for so much.

    Sad news – Peggy Lipton passed away:

  4. Sweet Sue says:

    Thinking of you, JJ. and sending love. The Firsts are always the hardest.

  5. NW Luna says:

    Doing more housework than your male partner? It’s all your fault, apparently. Your standards are too high or you don’t make your kids do housework.

    Moms spend even more time on housework when a man’s in the house.

    Motherhood provides satisfaction and meaning to many women, but it has never been easy, often demanding hard work and sacrifices. Conventional wisdom would suggest that when a mother lives with a husband or male partner, her load is lighter because she has someone with whom to share parenting and other responsibilities. But when it comes to housework, that turns out not to be true.

    This is the case even when a mom brings home the proverbial bacon. Related research analyzing data from ATUS surveys between 2008 and 2012 shows that after working a full day, married mothers who are the sole breadwinner do almost an hour of housework on average compared with about 11 minutes from married fathers who are the sole breadwinner. Even on their days off, breadwinner moms don’t take a break, doing three times as much cooking, cleaning and laundry as breadwinner dads.

    Yet, we — as a society and as individual women — can’t pin the blame on men.

    Though our husbands may see nothing wrong with serving store-bought cookies at our child’s birthday party, we moms will stay up late baking because of our own feelings that to do otherwise would somehow make us bad mothers. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to serve home-cooked meals or keep the house clean. But men who stay home and look after children may not feel the same pressure as women to keep the floors spotless and may be perfectly content ordering take-out for dinner.

    It’s also true that married moms don’t always take advantage of other sources of help around the house: For example, the research indicates children do more housework when they live with a single vs. a married mother.

    • quixote says:

      Don’t remember where I saw this, but the sorts of people who research these things came up with a number: Having a male partner in the house caused an extra seven hours of housework a week for women. And if I remember right, that was true whether the guys were trying to “help” with the housework or not.

      Plus, the BS about standards. This is the only situation where the acknowledged expert (women are always told that all those X chromosomes mean they’re really good at it) is not the one to set the standard.

      • NW Luna says:

        Uh-huh. I bet the reason single mothers do less housework is that they’re so worn out from trying to make ends meet and doing all the parenting.

  6. RonStill4Hills says:

    Happy mother’s day to all the lovely moms of the Skydancing family!

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