Sunday Reads: You’re not like other girls…


This will be a quick post, and it won’t mention a tRump at all.

Well, except for this little tidbit…

Democratic women senators not allowed to meet with Trump’s pick for stolen SCOTUS seat – Shareblue

Republicans are demanding Democratic support for Donald Trump’s nominee to the stolen Supreme Court seat, but the White House is denying some Democratic women the opportunity to even meet with him for questioning.

Not surprising when his VP won’t even have dinner with any woman other than his wife.

Mike Pence doesn’t eat alone with women. That speaks volumes | Jessica Valenti | Opinion | The Guardian

The vice-president’s rule is insulting for men and limiting for women. But let’s not let Pence’s sexism distract us from his whole party’s sexist agenda

Also, on that note…Mike Pence strips women of healthcare with tie-breaking Senate vote

Vice President Mike Pence just used his powers in the Senate to be the lone decider in whether or not women will have access to crucial healthcare coverage.

In a 51-50 vote, Senate Republicans — with a few members defecting to side with Democrats — just repealed an Obama-era regulation that puts states “on notice” with respect to funding Planned Parenthood health centers. The initial regulation stipulated that states that sought to deny Title X funding — which goes to groups like Planned Parenthood that provide low-income Americans with affordable family planning services — would be in violation of federal law.

The National Women’s Law Center broke down the harm that the latest decision by Vice President Pence and Senate Republicans would cause to low-income women in a recent blog post:

Breast exams—which were provided to over 1 million women nationally at Title X sites in 2015;

Other important confidential preventive care, including screenings for sexually transmitted infections (STIs)/HIV, and health education; and

Contraceptive care and counseling that helped women avoid 904,000 unintended pregnancies, which would have resulted in 439,000 unplanned births in 2014.

The move to relieve states attempting to cut Title X grants to dry up Planned Parenthood’s funding comes on the heels of the Republicans’ embarrassing Trumpcare defeat last week, when President Trump and House Speaker Paul Ryan’s proposed healthcare overhaul didn’t even receive a vote in the heavily Republican House of Representatives. With Pence’s latest tiebreaker, Republicans will now no longer be 0-1 in fulfilling campaign promises related to taking away healthcare for low-income people.

What a way to end out the month that was supposed to celebrate women…

Fucking hell.


Is she locking him up? I prefer to think she is….

It is constantly amazing to me how the right can continue to put forth life threatening laws like this:

Lawmaker: Miscarrying women must carry dead fetuses to term – SFGate

An Iowa state representative is under fire after saying women who miscarry after 20 weeks of pregnancy should be forced to carry their dead fetuses to term.

During a hearing Wednesday of Senate File 471, which would clear the way for a state ban on abortions after the 20-week mark, Republican Rep. Shannon Lundgren — the manager of 471 — faced a question from fellow Rep. John Forbes, a Democrat.

Noting that he has a daughter who is 20 weeks pregnant, Forbes asked that under the bill, would his daughter have to carry her child to term even if a doctor told her there was no longer a heartbeat.

“Is that good medicine?” Forbes wondered.

Lundgren’s response:

“This bill wasn’t written for the intent to protect or govern on the side of the woman. It was written to save babies’ lives, giving the choice and being the voice of those babies…that don’t have one. I understand what you’re saying—this fetus, this baby, is not alive. I would concur that in that instance, if your daughter’s life is not in danger, that yes, she would have to carry that baby.”

Sepsis anyone?

And this isn’t all that we have seen from the GOP this week…Georgia lawmakers cruelly mocked rape survivor lobbying against harmful bill

If you REALLY want to rage, watch this clip of Ehrhart saying being “falsely accused” is just as traumatizing as being sexually assaulted.


The year is 2017 and that video above still shows the dangerous repercussions of rape culture that is perpetuated by the patriarchy attitudes that show no signs of calming down. Take this incident, which is not in this country…but illustrates the point: Wealthy Man in Mexico Acquitted of Rape Because He ‘Didn’t Enjoy It’

A judge in Mexico has acquitted one of three men accused of raping a 17-year-old girl on the grounds that, as one activist described it, he “didn’t enjoy it.”

Diego Cruz, who was 19 at the time, and three of his friends, all sons of wealthy businessmen and politicians, allegedly abducted their former high school classmate and forced her into the back of a car as she was leaving a party in Boca del Rio, Veracruz, in 2015. The girl said Cruz and another man, Jorge Coahuila, grabbed under her shirt and shorts. A third man, Enrique Capitaine, raped her, while the fourth sat there.

Though Judge Anuar González acknowledged that Cruz touched the girl’s breasts and genitals, he found that Cruz’s action was “incidental rubbing” that lacked “carnal intent,” and was therefore not assault.


Wait a moment…is she shooting a bird? Flicking the finger? Giving the old, Fuck Off?


And you know, the fight…is a world wide assault. Over in Britain: Anger as tampon tax is used to help fund anti-abortion group | Politics | The Guardian

Seriously…no wonder so many women over the world took the Woman’s March to heart.

But let’s hear it for the women and girls who are standing up to the right.


‘They Don’t Care About Any Poor People’: Little Miss Flint Talks About Her City’s Water Crisis

Amariyanna “Mari” Copeny is Little Miss Flint. She is 9 years old and lives in Flint, MI. She told me that in her free time she likes to “go on Twitter or just play with my toys or just lay down in bed, read, and play with my dollhouse, and color and draw and cheer.” She hasn’t been able to drink the water from the sink in her house for 1,071 days, because, as she put it, “you might die.”

Copeny’s story has been lightly edited and condensed for clarity.

The water smelled bad. It gave me a bad rash. It smelled like bleach. We couldn’t use it no more. [We used] bottled water: 36 gallons for a bubble bath and so we could brush our teeth.

More stories of women and girls standing up below…





Want to follow some body positive folks: 6 Body Positive Illustrators You Need To Know About

Self-love is for everybody!  For those days then you feel like “ugh,” you need bright, cheerful reminders of how you are just perfect, just the way you are!  Here are 6 of my favorite body-positive illustrators to watch for everyday inspiration to love yourself and be kind to your body!

How about this: This Twitter Account Highlights Inspiring Central American Women Who Broke Barriers

With history mostly focusing on the achievements of men, it’s necessary to elevate the stories of women. As British historian and author Bettany Hughes states, “It’s the inconvenient truth that women have always been 50 percent of the population, but only occupy around 0.5 percent of recorded history. Physically the stories of women have been written out of history, rather than written in.”

That’s why the work of 24-year-old Zaira Funes is so important. During this year’s Women’s History Month, she fought this erasure by tweeting about inspirational Latin American women. Because the Salvadoran-American student chose to solely highlight Central America – an isthmus that’s also very familiar with erasure – she gave many a chance to learn and feel pride about barrier-breaking women from Honduras, Guatemala, Nicaragua, El Salvador, Costa Rica, Panama, and Belize.

Funes included a range of athletes, activists, singers, and everything in between. To wrap up March, check out these Central American women who made history, as curated by Funes:

Go to the link to read more and check those women out.

Yeah, tell him what for…

And since I am packing this post with links on women, why not post a story on…The Real Story of Elizabeth Báthory: History’s Most Prolific Female Serial Killer

Whenever you hear this story, you’ll find plenty more questions than answers. Was Elizabeth Báthory really the most prolific female killer of all time? Was she framed, a victim of being a powerful woman in a time when that alone was enough to ruin her reputation?

Or was she as bad as they say, a woman who had her henchmen gather virgins (up to 650!) from neighboring villages in order to bathe in their blood, a practice she believed would keep her young?

As with the majority of history (especially history about women and other underrepresented categories of people), you’ll just have to read what we know and make up your own mind, because there will never be a black-and-white truth.


Cool, innit.

Well, y’all know what I mean.

Now a quick video, because it makes me laugh every time I see it.


If you are on Facebook, then follow the next couple of groups. They always have interesting post.


And if anything is said of feminism…this must be: Intersectionality 

Let’s keep the women post going….

For some reason that Instagram of Alan Cumming is not showing up…this is the image btw:


We celebrated Transgender Day recently, and one story that went around the web caught my eye:

Transgender WWII veteran comes out as a woman at 90 | New York Post

WWII Veteran Comes Out As Transgender At The Age Of 90 | The Huffington Post

90-Year-Old World War II Vet Comes Out As Transgender  | GOOD

I put up three different links there…each has the same story but they all have little various details and quotes.

She looks skeptical…doesn’t she.

Up next…16 Lesbian Power Couples From History Who Got Shit Done, Together | Autostraddle

Lesbians are well-known for our unique ability to find a girlfriend and then turn that romantic relationship into an all-consuming life partnership — starting businesses, pursuing activism, revolutionizing social services, erecting schools, liberating marginalized groups. This is true today but has also been true since the beginning of time. Back in the day, many women were held back from activism and entrepreneurship by the demands of marriage and motherhood, making some women-loving-women uniquely able to pursue civilization-shifting ventures. (Although many managed to do both!) We’re gonna talk about some of those relationships here today.

For the purposes of this list, I defined “power couple” as a relationship through which both women were able to achieve greater professional, artistic or service-related success because of their relationship with each other. I leaned towards couples that actually made or did things together — whether that be starting a school, hosting a nightclub, creating social services for disadvantaged humans or making films. Also, as usual, the word “lesbian” is used as an adjective to describe a same-sex relationship, not the sexual orientation of the women in the relationship.

And for many of us, this next article may come as no surprise: What states have the best and worst quality of life for women.

Hawaii has best quality of life for women | Daily Mail Online

Ladies love Hawaii! The island state is declared to have the best quality of life for women – while Utah, Louisiana, and Oklahoma have the worst
A new in-depth study by MoveHub ranked US states based on the quality of life for women who live there
The site looked at factors like gender pay gap, political representation in the state legislature, equality in education, and accessibility to health insurance
It also examined reproductive rights and the number of incidents of violence against women
States in the Northeast and West mostly fared best, while Utah and a cluster of Southern states performed worst

I also thought this was a good story to share, ‘Penis Seat’ Causes Double Takes on Mexico City Subway – The New York Times

A seat in a subway car in Mexico City’s metro system caused a stir earlier this year. There were awkward glances. Visible discomfort. Baffled looks. Some laughs. And of course, the inevitable pictures from passengers’ camera phones.

It was meant to be provocative, and it was. A seat was changed to look like the lower half of a male’s body, including the penis, part of a campaign by UN Women and the Mexico City government to raise awareness about sexual harassment on subways.

On the floor beneath the seat, there was a sign reading, “It is annoying to travel this way, but not compared to the sexual violence women suffer in their daily commutes.”

Video and more at the link.

And finally….this last story:

The kingdom of women: the Tibetan tribe where a man is never the boss | Life and style | The Guardian

It’s a place where women rule, marriage doesn’t exist and everything follows the maternal bloodline. But is it as good for women as it sounds – and how long can it last?

A Mosuo woman weaves with a loom at her shop in Lijiang, China.

A Mosuo woman weaves with a loom at her shop in Lijiang, China. Photograph: Chien-min Chung/Getty Images

Imagine a society without fathers; without marriage (or divorce); one in which nuclear families don’t exist. Grandmother sits at the head of the table; her sons and daughters live with her, along with the children of those daughters, following the maternal bloodline. Men are little more than studs, sperm donors who inseminate women but have, more often than not, little involvement in their children’s upbringing.

This progressive, feminist world – or anachronistic matriarchy, as skewed as any patriarchal society, depending on your viewpoint – exists in a lush valley in Yunnan, south-west China, in the far eastern foothills of the Himalayas. An ancient tribal community of Tibetan Buddhists called the Mosuo, they live in a surprisingly modern way: women are treated as equal, if not superior, to men; both have as many, or as few, sexual partners as they like, free from judgment; and extended families bring up the children and care for the elderly. But is it as utopian as it seems? And how much longer can it survive?

Go to the link and read the rest. It is fascinating.

Well, that is all I have for you today…this is an open thread..have at it.

31 Comments on “Sunday Reads: You’re not like other girls…”

  1. Minkoff Minx says:

    I’ve still got to insert images and fix formatting but I wanted to get this post up. Sorry for the delay.

  2. bostonboomer says:

    Thanks for a fabulous post! I loved the story about the transgender WWII vet. Going to check out more links now.

    • Minkoff Minx says:

      Thanks. I wanted to included a clip from the film A Woman’s Face. (They had it on TCM this past week.) With Joan Crawford. (Her birthday was a couple days ago.) There is a scene where Conrad Veidt is drinking a toast to Joan, and the line he says to her is…”Skoal, satan.” It was to go with that first cartoon. But I couldn’t find a clip of it anywhere!

  3. dakinikat says:

  4. janicen says:

    Gamut of emotions in this post. Rage, intense sadness, and pure joy over the little one posing for the camera. I really needed that last one after the earlier stories. Thanks, JJ.

  5. Pat Johnson says:

    I believe that as a nation we have lost our sense of outrage when it comes to female issues.

    Fox News has shelled out 13million dollars to cover the sexual harassment cases against Bill O’Reilly who remains on the air and earning an annual salary of 19million dollars.

    Anywhere else he would be fired and hopefully humiliated by his behavior toward women but this asshole remains on the air and celebrated. He is a wife beater on top of that yet his ratings remain steady in the face of his lewdness and violence. Something is wrong with this picture.

    No wonder he, Trump and Ailes remain friends. Birds of a feather, etc.

    Women are taking a royal beating from this administration on all levels yet I hear very little outcry as our rights are steadily being stripped across the nation by idiots who view us as second class.

  6. Minkoff Minx says:

    Shit, I forgot to include this image.

    Hope you all have a good day. My mom has been having a wicked cas of insomnia. She wants to see Grand Hotel now. Lol

  7. NW Luna says:

    The intersectionality issue makes me sad. Feminism is the idea that women are people. (Apologies; I’ve forgotten who first said that). Of course it’s inherently intersectional.

    Was early feminism in the US really that blind about the added effects of race, class and other exploitation targets on top of being female? What about Shirley Chisholm, Audre Lorde, bell hooks? Certainly most of the active feminists of the early days were white due to the a combination of percentages of the population plus usually having easier economic status & the wherewithal — time, funds — to organize, write, and protest. And of course it’s better to have all the diversity of womanhood represented. To me it seems that what unites women is so much more important than the differences — which is not at all the same as ignoring differences. Working together now for all women is what’s needed.

    Maybe I’m too buried in the dialectical method here. Or I’m worried that the subjects of ethnicity, class, etc., will receive precedence over being female.

    Huh. Then again, I’m reminded of Democratic meetings when people would discuss what the party was for. By the time the group listed all the ways people could be discriminated against, and delineated that the Ds stood for the rights of all, we had a description several pages long. Guess I’m a lumper rather than splitter: Let’s say “Civil Rights For All.”

    One of my favorite bell hooks quotes:

    She …provided the best solution to the difficulty of defining something as diverse as “feminism”, addressing the problem that if feminism can mean everything, it means nothing. She asserts an answer to the question “what is feminism?” that she says is “rooted in neither fear nor fantasy… ‘Feminism is a movement to end sexism, sexist exploitation and oppression'”.

    • quixote says:

      Agree. Intersectionality is for everybody. Either everybody has rights or nobody has them. Just some people have privileges.

      What bothers me is the constant stress on *feminism* being intersectional. I’d be a lot less bothered if BLM and anti-homo-, trans-, queer-phobia were as exercised about being sure they included feminism.

      On rare occasions I see that. But most of the time it sounds like the usual shut-up-and-pay-attention-to-me stuff always being directed at women.

      • Minkoff Minx says:

        Luna and quixote… I belong to some Facebook groups and you should see how some of these white women go crazy ass on w.o.c.

        I don’t know why the moderators don’t ban the women. It gets ridiculous.

        • NW Luna says:

          Crazy ass as in attacking or denigrating w.o.c.? That’s sick. That’s an attack on all of us. Maybe they’re bots. I get suspicious about anything that looks like divide and conquer. But agree with you, sounds like it’s past time for enforcement. Who needs these kind of enemies?

        • quixote says:

          Interesting. Some people seem to really let themselves go nuts on Facebook. Not that this is in the class of rape videos, but it is also an out-there hatred otherwise found on 4chan or subreddits where normal people do not tread.

          Or am I wrong? I’m not on Fbook, and the stories you hear reported are probably going to talk about the worst cases.

          My suspicion is that the reason Fbook (and other places, Twitter, etc.) are so oblivious to the hateful stuff is because they actually want it, since it increases clicks and “engagement.” (Yeah. I have a low opinion of them.)

      • NW Luna says:

        quixote, agree. There’s a glaring lack of intersectionality talk or action in the other movements (unless I am missing something). Often it seems the differences are emphasized more than the commonality.

        Then let’s not forget that in the early days of the Black Power movement, Kwame Ture (Stokely Carmichael) “in his hipster rap comedic way joked that ‘the proper position of women in SNCC is prone’.” Riiiiiight.

        • quixote says:

          I know I’m dating myself in the worst way, but I didn’t read about that. I remember it. Vividly. And I’m still just as angry about it as the first time I heard it. And even angrier about the obliviousness of the “left” to how it makes everything they say a lie.

          • Sweet Sue says:

            I remember it, too.
            Men on the left (some berniebros are still afflicted) had an awful case of “the fuck stops here.”
            Civil rights for everybody except my old lady.

  8. NW Luna says:

    Well, who’d a thunk it:

    • quixote says:

      Ah. The Mercer-funded Cambridge Analytica is in the thick of that one too.

      Four hundred years from now people will look back and marvel that we allowed such brain parasites to do anything they wanted.

  9. NW Luna says:

    Another reason why I wouldn’t want to use Uber:

    How Uber Uses Psychological Tricks to Push Its Drivers’ Buttons

    Employing hundreds of social scientists and data scientists, Uber has experimented with video game techniques, graphics and noncash rewards of little value that can prod drivers into working longer and harder — and sometimes at hours and locations that are less lucrative for them.

    But an examination by The New York Times found that Uber is continuing apace in its struggle to wield the upper hand with drivers. And as so-called platform-mediated work like driving for Uber increasingly becomes the way people make a living, the company’s example illustrates that pulling psychological levers may eventually become the reigning approach to managing the American worker.

  10. jan says:

    i couldn’t get past the spot where women Senators of the United States are not allowed to do their jobs. Female Senators are not women, THEY ARE SENATORS OF THE UNITED STATES and deserve to be treated as such. This is UNCONSTITUTIONAL!!!!!!!!!

  11. NW Luna says:

    And speaking about “white feminism” and the “not being intersectional enough” bullshit, — this article made me feel furious and bereft all over again:

    I knew just what one of my graduate students meant when I asked her how millennial feminists saw Hillary and she said “a white lady”. A white woman herself, she wasn’t referring to the colour of Hillary’s skin, or even her racial politics, but rather what was perceived as her membership in the dominant class, all cleaned up and normalised, aligned with establishment power rather than the forces of resistance, and stylistically coded (her tightly coiffed hair; her neat, boring pantsuits; her circumspection) with her membership in that class. When I looked at Hillary, I saw someone very different – but I understood the basis for my student’s perception.

    Any rift between feminist generations, however, would almost certainly have been healed by Donald Trump’s outrageous comments and behavior, had younger progressives not become bonded, during the primary, to a Democratic male hero who both supported the issues they were most passionate about and offered young women independence from the stale and, in their view, defunct feminist past. These young women weren’t going to rush to order a plastic “woman card” for a candidate that had been portrayed by their hero as a hack of the establishment. They didn’t believe in sisterhood– a relic of a time when, as they had been told (often in women’s studies courses) privileged, white feminists clasped hands in imagined gender solidarity, ignoring racial injustice and the problems of the working class. They didn’t want to be dealt any cards at a bridge game organised by Gloria Steinem or Madeleine Albright – or Hillary Clinton. They wanted Bernie Sanders.

    For Sanders supporters, however, progressive wasn’t an ill-defined, historically malleable label, but rather a badge of honor, a magical talisman for those who considered themselves anti-establishment. It may have been “a fallback identifier for pretty much anyone The Nation and its journalistic kin smiled upon” (as Michael Kazin described it), but it was an identifier with a great deal of potency, particularly for a younger generation longing for lives organised around something other than job hunting. When Sanders denied that badge of honour to Clinton he wasn’t distinguishing his agenda from hers (their positions on most issues were, in reality, pretty similar), he was excluding her from the company of the good and pure – and in the process, limiting what counted as progressive causes, too. His list didn’t include the struggle for reproductive rights or affordable child care. Nor, at the beginning of his campaign, was there much emphasis on racial justice.

    • dakinikat says:

      I would like to announce that I’ve been working on intersectionality since fucking 1982 … I have the video with Maya Angelou to prove it if I could just get it of VHS. I’m really tired of this! Women need to just fucking support each other and listen! We all have stories and voices and herstory. It all connects and it’s all important. If that pit us against each other we lose!

    • janicen says:

      To me, the most important point made in the article was that millennial feminists grew up during twenty years of anti-Hillary propaganda. Couple that with the influence of the third-wavers and their misguided interpretation of feminism as having the freedom to be compliant to patriarchy and you have some pretty big obstacles for the average young feminist to overcome. It’s not a hopeless case. Millennials like my daughter and her friends and acquaintances have not fallen for these ultimately destructive messages and they have to be the ones to lead the charge in changing the hearts and minds of their peers who have fallen victim to the brainwashing.

      I don’t feel rage toward these misguided feminists. The more I come to understand the specifically targeted propaganda that was used to influence voters this time around the more I see what has been perplexing all of us. The Hillary haters, Berners, and Trump voters have been receiving a completely different set of “facts” by way of their social media. I’ll be honest, I never heard about the crazy pedophile pizza parlor crap until that guy went and shot it up but apparently some people had been bombarded with stories about it. It’s not going to be easy to get people to admit that they have been brainwashed but I think that’s where we have to start.

      I’ve personally blocked any non-mainstream news source on FB. All of them. Including the ones with a liberal or pro-Hillary message. If it’s not a direct source or a mainstream outlet like Wapo, NYT, or CNN, I’m blocking it because all it is is an amalgamation of stories meant to influence not inform. I’m really starting to enjoy FB again. Just looking at recipes, friends’ vaca pics and food pics from restaurants I’ve linked to. Oh, and cat and dog videos too. Gotta have those! 😉

      • NW Luna says:

        A lot of us did not fall for the propaganda. And I bet most of us are the ones who saw through the hype about Obama being more “progressive” than Hillary back in ’08. The MSM had so much negative press about Hillary last year — their material has to be questioned also, though they’re not anywhere as bad as Fox News.

    • roofingbird says:

      So, yes, to re-address Womanism, discuss how the Schafly influence, helped to divide the feminist movement over the ERA on non traditional gender issues, and elucidate what was happening inside and outside the feminist movement that allowed persons of color, including indigenous women, to be kept out. I would have included awareness of how women are still not equal, because prior to the election the millennials I knew hadn’t a clue. However, I think this election changed that somewhat. There is urgency to upload as much history, information and understanding right now, so that we don’t simply repeat ourselves and die again on the vine as unfinished business.

  12. dakinikat says: